Pleasure for people with a penis

There are topics that are easily discussed and others… not so much! When it comes to sexuality, taboos are slowly fading. But, let's be honest, there are still some themes that "resist the invader". When it comes to orgasm, pleasure and toys, tongues loosen easily for everything relating to people with a clitoris. And what about people with a penis? As you know, Passage du Désir's credo is to champion pleasure for all and to encourage exploration to flourish solo gold as a couple. I couldn't resist lifting the veil on a topic that is rarely discussed enough: the pleasure of people with a penis!

A huuuge number of clichés! 

The less a topic is discussed, the more limited our knowledge of it is and the more clichés circulate. In this respect, the pleasure of people with a penis is no exception!

I don't see this as an opportunity to blame anyone, but rather as an opportunity to untangle the true from the false with you… Kindness, always and forever 🙂

So let's go for a quick overview of the preconceived ideas on the subject.

"It's mechanical, a few back-and-forth strokes and that's it!" 

We are actually quite far from the truth. That would mean that pleasure comes only through penetration, and that is not the case!

The penis is not necessarily the one and only erogenous zone. You can, for example, give pleasure to your partner by stimulating the testicles, nibbling the earlobe, stimulating the anus, etc… You get the idea — back-and-forth strokes are not the only source of pleasure.

And looking into the question can spark ideas of things to try. It's actually an excellent way to build greater intimacy in your relationship or with your crush.

"Anyway, it's simple to know if they enjoyed themselves — if they came, job done!"

Wrong again! Whether for people with a penis gold people with a clitoris, orgasm does not necessarily mean that the climax of pleasure has been reached.

Pleasure without ejaculating is possible! There's no need to question yourself if this happens to you. The erection can be reliable, the stimulation very pleasant and prolonged enough over time… And yet, no ejaculation even after reaching orgasm!

It is also possible to climax without having reached orgasm — this is what is known as anorgasmia. This can be very frustrating, so don't hesitate to speak with a sexologist about it!

"Sex toys? That doesn't concern me, nothing is made for us!"

You can probably guess what I'm going to say, but I like to state the obvious. It's false, of course! While there are clearly more brands offering intimate toys for people with a clitoris, there is plenty to explore for people with a penis too. Here's a little selection of our penis toys 👇

"Anal pleasure is reserved for people with a clitoris gold for homosexuals"

"No either! The idea may perfectly appeal to you or put you off, and that is perfectly understandable. But the joys of Anal Stimulation are open to everyone!"

We might, for example, enjoy during a moment of oral sex that our partner's tongue wanders and stimulates this area. We might also enjoy the stimulation of a finger without this having anything to do with your sexual orientation.

It is an innervated area, which means it is sensitive. This is what makes it enjoyable when one's partner pays it particular attention.

And something interesting to share with you: the equivalent of the G-spot exists in people with a penis. It's called the P-spot. P for prostate, which is a particularly erogenous zone! And the little "button to activate it" is located in your rectum… Don't thank me for the tip, and simply enjoy next-level orgasms if you feel like it 🙂

Sources of pleasure for people with a penis 

I'm now going to share some of my knowledge on the subject. Of course, the list won't be exhaustive. I'd need to write a book rather than a blog post to properly dig into the question… Who knows? Maybe one day!

In the meantime, here are a few avenues to explore… Gold not, it's up to you!

Oral sex 

Generally very well appreciated, it is a source of multiple pleasures. It can be practised "without any extras" or with, for example, popping candy to discover new… explosive sensations!

It can involve stimulation of part of the shaft gold the whole of it in the case of deep throat.

You can even practise it on yourself! Oh yes, it's quite rare as it requires a little flexibility, but it is doable.

Masturbation

Here too, options are not in short supply. There is of course the timeless stimulation with the back-and-forth of one's hand (or that of one's partner) on the shaft. But you can also practise it with toys, with little wonders like those I mentioned earlier in the article.

Gold resorting to humping by masturbating through friction. Against your partner's body, for example.

Sensory stimulation

It's a catch-all in which you'll find lots and lots of spicy delights. It could involve sending a nude, wearing a particular outfit, gold your partner's scent, for example…

And to explore your pleasure to the fullest, you can venture into the world of slow sex and tantrism. These are practices that allow you to take your time, not to chase orgasm at all costs, in order to (re)discover all the sensations of an intimate encounter.

Penetration

Whether it involves anal or vaginal penetration, the possibilities are endless! It's a classic, so I won't go into more detail on that front.

Perineum stimulation 

Yes, you have one too! It's the one that becomes a key ally when the prostate starts playing up, but it also helps you maintain a quality erection and enjoy pleasure during the act.

It measures barely a few centimetres and is located just between the testicles and the anus. It can be stimulated during your oral sex sessions, by letting your partner explore the area with their tongue, for example. But it is by using your fingers and making small circular pressures that you will create the most pleasure for your other half!

Novelty

Don't get me wrong, it doesn't mean that you need to change partners… Don't twist my words, I don't want to have any trouble with your (ex) partners 🙈 I was thinking more about the quest for novelty by trying out different sexual practices.

Pegging, slow sex, tantrism, BDSM, humping, kinging… The list is long and full of practices as different from one another as they are rich in sensations!

That's all for today, see you very soon 💜