Slow Sex

When it comes to playtime for two, there's no shortage of options. So many possibilities! What do we choose? Have you heard of slow sex? If you tell me no, then it's time to give it a try! Let me explain why it's worth it and how to do it.

Quick, quick, quick! An orgasm!

In everyday life, at work, at home, we're constantly rushing around. Chasing results and goals, urgency and haste rule our lives. And as a result, in bed, we tend to do the same. Dreaming of orgasms, we almost forget the journey to get there (which is a real shame…). A specialist in the female cycle and positive psychology, Cécile de Williencourt reminds us that "Chasing orgasm at all costs takes us away from what we are experiencing in the moment". So, what if we took our time?

Slowly, but surely.

But what exactly is Slow Sex? Close to tantra, it's a practice that involves experiencing sex mindfully, to prolong pleasure and above all live it more intensely. Slowing down to refocus on the senses, on your partner and on yourself. You take the time to feel every caress, every sensation, every emotion, to forget your insecurities and daily worries; in fact, you reconnect the body to the brain. And you let go! Right, we agree, it's easier said than done. But because we're nice, here are a few tips.

Creating the right atmosphere to switch off from reality and everyday life

Start by turning off the devices that remind you of your obligations. And yes, getting a text from your mother-in-law in the middle of a cuddle session isn't ideal. Turn everything off and create an atmosphere that stimulates the senses. Candles, fragrances, music, massage oils, listening and talking are all great ways to stimulate you both physically and mentally.

Slow sex is ideal for unwinding

Relax! The more you manage to let go, the better you'll experience things. This can be more difficult for people who feel self-conscious about their bodies, but you can make it easier with breathing exercises, relaxation or daily meditation.

Slow, but not inactive

Slow doesn't mean flat or boring. It's more about taking the time to pamper your partner, vary the pace and be attentive to every sensation. You can certainly alternate between fast and slow intensity levels. Once again, the goal is above all to focus on the build-up of pleasure rather than on reaching orgasm.

Slow Sex gold not Slow Sex? 

We see you, adrenaline junkies—we know full well that taking your time isn't always possible, nor do you always want to. Slow Sex is a practice to incorporate into your sex life, it's not the only thing you do. Above all, it's a way to spice things up a bit and change your habits!

Try taking your time during your next session together or solo, and let us know how it goes ;)

See you soon 💜