Slow Sex

When it comes to fun for two, there’s no shortage of options. So many possibilities! What should you choose? Have you heard of slow sex? If not, it’s time to give it a try! I’ll explain why it’s worth exploring and how to get started.

Quick, quick, quick! An orgasm!

In everyday life, at work and at home, we’re always rushing around. Chasing results and goals, we let urgency and haste run our lives. And we tend to do the same in bed. Dreaming of orgasm, we almost forget to enjoy the journey there (which is a real shame…). As a specialist in the menstrual cycle and positive psychology, Cécile de Williencourt reminds us that “Chasing orgasm at all costs takes us away from what we’re experiencing in the moment.” So, what if we took our time?

Slowly but surely.

But what exactly is slow sex? Closely related to tantra, it means being fully present during sex, to make pleasure last longer and, above all, feel it more intensely. Slowing down to focus again on your senses, your partner and yourself. Taking the time to feel every touch, every sensation, every emotion; to forget your insecurities and everyday worries. In short, reconnecting your body and mind. And letting go! All right, we know: easier said than done. But because we’re nice like that, here are a few tips.

Create the right atmosphere to switch off from everyday life

Start by switching off the devices that remind you of your responsibilities. After all, getting a text from your mother-in-law in the middle of an intimate moment isn’t exactly ideal. Switch everything off and create an atmosphere that stimulates the senses. Candles, scents, music, massage oils, listening and talking can all help stimulate you physically and mentally.

Slow sex is ideal for letting go

Relax! The more you can let go, the more you’ll feel. This can be harder if you feel self-conscious about your body, but breathing exercises, relaxation or daily meditation can help.

Slow, but not passive

Slow doesn’t mean flat or boring. It means taking time to care for each other, varying the pace and paying attention to every sensation. You can absolutely alternate between faster and slower rhythms. Again, the main aim is to focus on pleasure building rather than on reaching orgasm.

Slow Sex or not Slow Sex? 

We see you, adrenaline junkies. We know taking your time isn’t always possible, and sometimes you simply don’t want to. Slow Sex is something to add to your sex life, not the only thing you do. Above all, it’s a way to spice things up and break out of your routine!

Try taking your time next time you have sex or enjoy a solo session. You can thank us later ;)

See you soon 💜