The Slow Sex

When it comes to games for two, options are not lacking. So many possibilities! What do we choose? Do you know slow sex? If you say no, then it's time to give it a try! I'll explain why it's worth it and how to do it.

Quick, quick, quick! An orgasm!

In daily life, at work, at home, we're constantly running. Chasing results, objectives, urgency, and haste direct our lives. And as a result, in bed, we tend to do the same. Dreaming of orgasm, we almost forget the path that leads there (which is quite a shame...). Specialist in the female cycle and positive psychology, Cécile de Williencourt reminds us that “The pursuit of orgasm at all costs distances us from what we are experiencing in the moment.” So, what if we took our time?

Slowly, but surely.

But what exactly is Slow Sex? Close to tantrism, it is a practice that involves experiencing sexual relations in full awareness, to prolong pleasure and especially to live it more intensely. Slow down to refocus on the senses, on the other and oneself. We take the time to feel every caress, every sensation, every emotion, to forget our insecurities, our daily life worries, in fact, we reconnect the body to the brain. And we let go! Okay, we agree, it's easier said than done. But since we're nice, here are some tips.

Create a conducive atmosphere to disconnect from reality and daily life

Start by turning off devices that remind you of your obligations. And yes, getting a text from your mother-in-law in the middle of a cuddle is not great. We turn everything off and create an atmosphere that stimulates the senses. Candles, scents, music, massage oils, listening and speaking are all tips that will stimulate you physically and mentally.

Slow sex is ideal for relaxing

Relax! The more you can relax, the better you will feel things. It's an exercise that can be more difficult for people who are insecure about their bodies, but you can facilitate this with breathing exercises, relaxation, or meditation on a daily basis.

Slow, but not inactive

Slow does not mean flat or boring. Rather, it's about taking the time to care for the other, varying rhythms, and being attentive to each sensation. You can definitely alternate between fast and slow intensities. Once again, the goal is mainly to focus on the rise of pleasure rather than the orgasm to reach.

Slow Sex or not Slow Sex? 

We see you adrenaline addicts, we know well that taking your time is not always possible, and we don't always want to either. Slow Sex is a practice to integrate into your sexuality, it's not all you do. It's mainly a way to spice things up a bit and change your habits!

Try taking your time during your next encounter or solo session, let us know how it goes ;)

See you soon 💜