Tantrism

Tantrism is rooted in Hinduism. More than a simple sexual practice, it is a way of life, a mindset that involves seeing yourself as one element within a greater whole! The idea is to connect with everything around us. "Connecting with others sounds lovely, but I'm not a PC you plug into a socket… How do I actually do that?"

No need to panic — in this article, I'll walk you through the basics of tantrism and how to get started with tantric sex.

Total harmony mode: activated

What's the idea behind tantrism? It's about embracing the notion that there is no duality in anything… Everything complements everything else and evolves in harmony with the world around it!

Here, goodbye to the idea of men being from Mars and women from Venus… We don't come from different planets, but our predispositions complement each other. One becomes the Yin, the other the Yang, and together we move towards greater harmony!

Everyone has their own vibe when it comes to lifestyle — but before you write it off as pointless… Wait, from a sexual perspective the benefits are actually very, very appealing!

Some say the future belongs to those who rise early — I prefer the version "pleasure belongs to those who sexplore"… And it just so happens that sexploration is one of the pillars of tantrism!

Sexploration at the heart of tantrism 

In Hindu doctrine, sexuality is a means of spiritual elevation. Whether or not you connect with that idea, the key takeaway is that it helps you know yourself better. You gain a deeper understanding of your body, who you are, and what you enjoy!

When it comes to sex, no secret here — the better you know your body, the easier it is to blast off into out-of-this-world orgasms!

So, how do you actually get started with tantric sex? Let's go — here are a few discovery tips!

Oh, and I almost forgot… Before diving in, keep in mind that the goal is to enjoy yourself — not to chase orgasm at all costs!

Take your time!

The first step is, in a way, to put everything on pause. The aim is to relax and clear your mind — a bit like trying to meditate…

We put our worries on standby — I know, easier said than done, but once you find the knack, it's truly worth it!

How do you "switch off" your mind? With breathing! Take slow, deep breaths in and exhale gently. Repeat until you feel your body letting go. You can close your eyes to help avoid being distracted by what's going on around you.

Once you've reached full relaxation mode, it's finally time to tease your partner and set off in pursuit of a new form of pleasure.

Feeling everything that connects us to the other 

Love is intangible — impossible to define precisely or measure? Well, the idea is precisely to try to pin it down a little.

We're not asking you to write an essay on what your other half means to you — but you do need to feel it precisely.

You love them, yes — but what does that actually mean? What do you feel, emotionally and physically? How does that love manifest itself? What is it about this person that makes them mean so much to you?

Practising tantrism means coming to understand what your relationship symbolises, so you can feel as deeply connected to your partner as possible.

Pleasure first, everything else can wait… 

Sometimes, consciously or not, we let social norms or external pressure guide our actions — in bed or otherwise! What do I mean by that?

Society whispers in our ear that to be a respectable person, we must have a job we're fully committed to and that fulfils us. We must project the image of the perfect little couple, raise our children impeccably, have a certain type of sex life, and so on… You get the idea — a life plan is mapped out for us in advance. We must tick all those little boxes. Whether any of it actually makes us happy is a question we'll get round to later…

Actually, a big no! And tantrism helps you realise that…

You don't have to wait until you've ticked every box others "expect" of you before taking your pleasure into your own hands.

Feeling stressed? Worried? Wondering how they'll see you in this or that situation? All of that — next! Set it aside and focus on what you need and want. That's it!

Let your 3rd eye take the lead

With tantrism, and to make the most of all its benefits, we bring our senses back to centre stage.

We focus, for instance, on that little something in their gaze that sets us alight. Or we linger on the sound of their breath or their moans, which give the whole experience an intensity that's muy caliente. We think of nothing but the effect of their touch on our body.

I think you get the idea… Everything that usually plays a supporting role in the recipe is now taking centre stage! These are no longer "little details" that complement the all-important penetration… We linger on every sensation to multiply the sources of pleasure… Grr!

Become the Indiana Jones of sex

As I've explained, with tantrism you don't necessarily set out in pursuit of orgasm. If it happens… we're certainly not going to complain, but there's really no need to chase it at all costs. Because what we're actually seeking is to fully explore our pleasure. How? By trying new things again and again to discover what makes us tick!

Got a favourite position you always go back to? Perfect — what if you explored some variations? Arch your back a little more, shift a limb, straighten up slightly… In short, those small tweaks that can make all the difference and take things up a notch… Caliente!

You could also try a little Kama Sutra game for some fresh ideas!

You can also try out new practices. If you're short of inspiration for your sexploration to-do list, have a look at the other articles on the blog. You might just find something to have a great time with your partner!

You can also learn about toys you haven’t tried yet. The classic rabbit, a nice little plug or even a prostate massager. That last one can seem intimidating, but it’s incredibly effective. You get the idea: have a browse around our site and you might discover your next favourite pleasure companion!

That’s all for today! Let us know on Instagram whether you’re a fan of tantra or not. And if you have any questions, we’d love to hear them too 🙂