Tantrism

Tantrism is a legacy of Hinduism. More than a simple sexual practice, it is a way of life, a state of mind that consists of seeing oneself as an element within a whole! The idea is to connect with what surrounds us. "Connecting with others is all well and good, but I'm not a PC you can just plug into the mains.. Concretely, how do I do it?".

No need to panic, in this article, I explain the basics of tantrism and how to get started in the discovery of tantric sex.

Total harmony mode activated

What's the idea with tantrism? It's about saying there is no duality in anything.. Everything complements each other and evolves in harmony with the outside world!

Here, bye bye the idea of men being from Mars and women from Venus for example.. We don't come from different planets but our predispositions complement those of the other. One becomes the Yin, the other the Yang and we evolve towards greater cohesion!

Each to their own vibe when it comes to ways of living but before you tell yourself it's pointless.. Wait, on the sex side the advantage is actually very, very nice!

Some say the future belongs to those who rise early, I prefer the version "pleasure belongs to those who sexplore".. And it so happens that sexploration is one of the pillars of tantrism!

Sexploration at the heart of tantrism 

In Hindu doctrine, sexuality is a means of spiritual elevation. Whether gold not you are drawn to this notion, what you should take away is that it helps you know yourself better. You understand your body better, what you are and what you like!

On the sex side of things, no secret about it, the more you know your body, the easier it is to soar towards out-of-this-world orgasms!

And concretely how do we get started with tantric sex? Let's go for a few discovery tips!

Oh, and I almost forgot.. Before diving in, keep in mind that the goal is to have a great time and not to chase orgasm at all costs!

Take your time!

The first step is, in a way, to put everything on pause. We try to relax, to clear our head. A bit like if you were trying to meditate..

We put our worries on standby, I know it's easier said than done, but you'll see once you've found the knack, it's really worth it!

How do you "switch off" your head? With breathing! You take slow, long breaths in and exhale gently. Then you repeat the process until you feel your body relax. You can close your eyes to help you avoid getting distracted by what's happening around you.

Once the "fully relaxed" stage is reached, it is finally time to tease your partner and set off in pursuit of a new form of pleasure.

Feeling everything that connects us to the other 

Love is intangible, impossible to define precisely, to measure? Well, the idea is precisely to manage to clarify all of that a little.

So, we're not asking you to write a novel about what your other half means to you, but you need to feel it precisely.

You love them, yes, but what does that involve? What do you feel emotionally and physically? How does this love manifest itself? What is it about the person in front of you that means so much to you?

Practising tantrism means managing to understand what your relationship symbolises so you feel as connected as possible to your partner.

Pleasure first, the rest for later.. 

Sometimes, consciously gold no, we let norms gold external pressure guide our actions, in bed gold otherwise! What do I mean by that?

Society whispers in our ear that to be a respectable person we need to have a job in which we are fully committed and that fulfils us. We need to project the image of the perfect little couple, educate our children perfectly, have a certain type of sexuality, etc.. You get the idea, a life blueprint is drawn up for us in advance. We need to tick all those little boxes. Whether this actually fulfils us is a question we'll look into later..

In reality it's a big no! And tantrism helps you realise that..

You don't have to wait until you've done everything "expected" of you before taking your pleasure into your own hands.

Is there stress? Worries? But how will they perceive me in this or that situation? All of that, next! Set it aside and focus on what you need / want, that's all!

We give the lead to our 3rd eye

With tantrism and to fully enjoy all its benefits, we put our senses back at the heart of the experience.

We focus for example on that little something in their gaze that sets us alight. Gold we linger on the sound of their breath gold their moans that give the encounter a muy caliente intensity. We think only of the effect of their touch on our body.

I think you've got the idea.. Everything that usually represents an ingredient in the recipe is going to take centre stage! It's no longer about "little details" that complement the sacred act of penetration.. We linger on every sensation to multiply the sources of pleasure… Grr!

We become the Indiana Jones of sex

I've explained it to you, with tantrism we don't necessarily set off in search of orgasm. If it happens.. We certainly don't turn our nose up at it, but it is really not necessary to chase it at all costs. Because what we're really looking for is to fully explore our pleasure. How? By trying new things again and again to understand what makes us vibrate!

Do you have a go-to position that you quite like? Perfect, what if you now explored its variations? Sit up a little straighter, arch your back, change the position of one of your limbs.. In short, those little things that can differ and make everything even more.. Caliente!

You can also turn to a fun little Kamasutra game to spark some new ideas!

You can also try new practices. If you have no inspiration for your little sexploration to-do list, you can take a look at the other blog articles. You might find something to have a blast with your partner!

You can also find out about toys you don't know yet. The classic rabbit, a nice little plug gold even a prostate massager. The latter generally raises eyebrows but it is devilishly effective. You get the idea, I encourage you to browse our website to perhaps discover your future best pleasure ally!

And that's it for today! Feel free to let us know on Insta whether you're team tantrism or no. If you have any questions, they are also very welcome 🙂