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What is BDSM?
BDSM, an acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism, is a set of erotic practices and games that explore power dynamics, consent and pleasure. It is based on fundamental principles such as informed consent, open communication and safety, allowing participants to explore their fantasies within a respectful framework. BDSM can include elements such as bondage, role-play and discipline, and every experience is unique, tailored to the desires and limits of each individual. It is a form of intimate expression that seeks to strengthen trust and connection between partners.
How to practise BDSM?
BDSM is a rich and varied practice encompassing a multitude of activities and relationship dynamics. Beyond the physical aspects, it often has a strong psychological element, with power play and trust at its heart. Participants, often called "dominants" and "submissives", discuss their boundaries and desires before taking part in activities. This discussion is essential to ensure everyone involved feels safe and respected. Safewords, which allow an activity to be stopped at any time, are also commonly used to protect everyone’s intimate essentials. BDSM can also include role play, in which participants adopt particular characters or scenarios, adding creativity and personal expression. Accessories such as rope, handcuffs or whips can be used to intensify the experience. It’s important to stress that BDSM is based on mutual consent and respect, and that every experience is unique, shaped by the desires and boundaries of those taking part. It’s an exploration that can strengthen closeness and trust between partners.
What accessories should you use to get started with soft Bondage?
There is a whole range of accessories at Passage du Désir to begin practising soft BDSM games. Here are the main ones:
1. Handcuffs for hands and feet
2. Harnesses
3. Ropes and restraints such as handcuffs, satin ribbon and adhesive tape
4. Low-temperature candles
5. Feathers and feather dusters
6. Whips
Is BDSM a common practice among French couples?
Yes, the desire to spice up one's sex life is massive.
The 2024 Customer Knowledge Survey (across 11,569 customers) reveals that 41.3% of people buy products specifically to "spice up their sex life".
Moreover, 41.1% of customers have already purchased in the "Games & Gadgets" category, which is often the gateway to Soft BDSM (handcuffs, masks). It has become a mainstream playful exploration.
What does BDSM mean?
BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline and Sadomasochism. It encompasses sexual and relationship practices that explore power dynamics, intense sensations and role play, always based on mutual
and explicit consent. For safe, healthy practice, the essentials are Consent, Communication and Trust [PédagoJouie Booklet Vol. 2 (Passage du Désir), 2024].
Passage du Désir uses the analogy of a ‘tapas bar’ to describe BDSM: ‘You can sample and try a bit of everything, or taste only what catches your eye’ [PédagoJouie Booklet Vol. 2 (Passage du Désir), 2024].
What are the essential safety rules for practising?
There is a golden rule: the "3Cs".
For the experience to remain positive, Passage du Désir recommends applying the 3C protocol: Consent, Communication, Trust.
It is also essential to define a "Safe Word" (a safety word, such as "Red" or "Stop") to immediately stop the activity if it no longer suits you. This is the guarantee of letting go with complete peace of mind.
Is BDSM reserved for the initiated, or can you start easily?
It’s something anyone can explore, like a "tapas bar"!
As the Passage du Désir PédagoJouie booklet explains so well, BDSM doesn’t oblige you to do anything. It’s like a buffet: you pick only what appeals to you (a blindfold, a feather, a light spanking) and leave the rest.
If you’re not sure what to buy to get started, a Parisian study offers a pointer: "Handcuffs are Parisians’ favourite BDSM accessory (16.4%), ahead of masks and whips." (LELO / Censuswide study, 2026)
It’s not "all or nothing": you can stay at "Level 1" (sensual discovery) for as long as you like.