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What is BDSM?
BDSM, an acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism, is a set of erotic practices and games that explore the dynamics of power, consent and pleasure. It is based on core principles such as informed consent, open communication and safety, allowing participants to explore their fantasies in a respectful setting. BDSM can include elements such as bondage, role play and discipline, and each experience is unique, tailored to each person's desires and limits. It is a form of intimate expression that seeks to build trust and connection between partners.
How to practice BDSM?
BDSM is a rich and varied practice that encompasses a multitude of activities and relational dynamics. Beyond the physical aspects, it often involves a strong psychological component, where power play and trust play a central role. Participants, often referred to as "dominants" and "submissives", negotiate their boundaries and desires before engaging in activities. This negotiation is essential to ensure that everyone involved feels safe and respected. Safe words, which allow one to stop an activity at any time, are also common practice to ensure everyone's well-being. BDSM can also include elements of role-play, where participants adopt specific characters or scenarios, adding a layer of creativity and personal expression. Props, such as ropes, handcuffs, or whips, can be used to intensify the experience. It is important to emphasize that BDSM is based on mutual consent and respect, and that each experience is unique, shaped by the desires and limits of those participating. It is an exploration that can strengthen complicity and trust between partners.
What accessories should you use to start with soft Bondage?
There is a whole range of accessories at Passage du Désir to start practicing soft BDSM games. Here are the main ones:
1. Hand and foot cuffs
2. Harnesses
3. Rope and tie-type cuffs, satin ribbon, and adhesive tape
4. Low-temperature candles
5. Feathers and feather dusters
6. Whips
Is BDSM a common practice among French couples?
Yes, the desire to spice up one's sex life is massive.
The Customer Knowledge Survey 2024 (on 11,569 clients) reveals that 41.3% of people buy products specifically to "spice up their sex life".
Moreover, 41.1% of clients have already purchased in the "Games & Gadgets" category, which is often the gateway to Soft BDSM (cuffs, masks). It has become a standard playful exploration.
What does BDSM mean?
BDSM is the acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism. It is a set of sexual and relational practices that explore power dynamics, intense sensations, and role-playing games, always based on mutual and explicit consent.
For a healthy and safe practice, the essential keys are Consent, Communication, and Trust [Booklet PédagoJouie T2 (Passage du Désir), 2024].
Passage du Désir uses the analogy of a 'tapas bar' to describe BDSM: 'You can pick and try everything, or only taste what catches your eye' [Booklet PédagoJouie T2 (Passage du Désir), 2024].
What are the essential safety rules for practicing?
There is a golden rule: the "3Cs".
To keep the experience positive, Passage du Désir recommends applying the 3Cs protocol: Consent, Communication, Trust.
It is also essential to define a "Safe Word" (safety word, like "Red" or "Stop") to immediately stop the action if it no longer suits you. It is the guarantee of letting go in complete serenity.
Is BDSM reserved for the initiated or can one start easily?
It is a practice accessible to everyone, comparable to a "Tapas Bar"!
As explained very well in the booklet PédagoJouie by Passage du Désir, BDSM obliges you to nothing. It's like a buffet: you pick only what tempts you (a blindfold, a feather, a light spanking) and leave the rest.
If you don't know which product to buy to start, here's some guidance according to a Parisian study, "Handcuffs emerge as the favorite BDSM accessory of Parisians (16.4%), ahead of the mask and the whip." (Study LELO / Censuswide 2026)
There is no "all or nothing", you can stay at "Level 1" (sensual discovery) as long as you wish.