The first time with a sextoy

How to use a sextoy?

There you go, you've chosen your first sextoy! Now it's time to use it..

You find yourself alone face to face with this new object you have never used before and you feel a bit intimidated? By using a sextoy, you might feel like you're losing the usual spontaneity that drives you to masturbation, and the idea of "planning" this moment with yourself bothers you? You're used to masturbating before falling asleep or upon waking up and are not used to doing it mindfully?

No worries, the first time with a sextoy is like the first time for anything! Often, we apprehend, stress a little, and then once we're there, everything goes smoothly and we want more!

Let me give you some little tips to make this first time with yourself and your new buddy a moment you'll remember for a long time!

1 - Get informed

First of all, to make the most of your new toy's features, read the manual! How to change speeds? Is it waterproof? How long should it be charged before first use? What type of lubricant to use with it? A whole bunch of questions that the user manual will answer.

2 - Plan the time

Plan a moment for yourself, avoid doing it between two zoom meetings or just before guests arrive. Take a moment just for yourself during which you are sure not to be disturbed. If you feel rushed and afraid of being late somewhere, your mind will be preoccupied, and you'll have a harder time enjoying the moment.

3 - Set the mood

Light a candle, burn some incense, dim the room with a small string of lights... it's up to you to see what you like! Settle in a quiet place where you won't be disturbed and where you feel comfortable: bedroom, bathroom, living room... as you wish!

4 - Arouse yourself

Make yourself want it! Rub yourself with scented oil, wear nice lingerie if you wish. Start by caressing your body to gently build up desire. You can let your mind and imagination wander or focus on your sensations and feelings.

5 - Go slowly

Start by touching yourself with your fingers, your hands. When you feel like it, start moving your sextoy over your erogenous zones: entrance of the vagina, lips, clitoris, shaft, glans of the penis... so that your body gets acquainted with these new sensations provided by your toy. For a first time, if you don't want to go further, that's perfectly okay, the keyword being PLEA-SURE.

6 - Stop whenever you want

Have a good time and stop whenever you want. Masturbation, whether with or without sextoy, is not a race to orgasm. Enjoy yourself as long as you want and stop when you wish!

There you go, those were my little tips for succeeding with your first time with your toy. Remember that everyone is different and goes at their own pace. These tips can work wonders for some without being suitable for everyone. Connect with your feelings, follow your instinct, and enjoy yourself!

PS: don't forget to always clean your toy after use. And yes, you have to take care of it 🙂

See you soon 💜