The first time with a sex toy

How to use a sex toy?

There you go, you've chosen your first sex toy! Now it's time to use it..

You find yourself alone, face to face with this new object you've never used before, feeling a little intimidated? Using a sex toy, you might feel like you're losing the spontaneity that usually drives you to masturbate, and the idea of "planning" this moment with yourself feels awkward? You're used to masturbating before falling asleep gold when you wake up, and you're not used to doing it mindfully?

Don't panic — the first time with a sex toy is like the first time with anything! Often you feel a little nervous, a bit stressed, and then once you get going, everything flows and you want more!

Let me give you a few little pieces of advice to make this first time with yourself and your new buddy a moment you'll remember for a long time!

1 - Do your research

First things first — to make the most of your new toy's features, read the instructions! How do you change the speeds? Is it waterproof? How long does it need to charge before first use? What type of lube should you use with it? The user manual will answer all these questions and more.

2 - Make time for yourself

Set aside some time for yourself — avoid doing this between two Zoom meetings or just before guests arrive. Take a moment all to yourself during which you're sure not to be disturbed. If you feel rushed and worried about being late somewhere, your mind will be preoccupied and you'll find it harder to enjoy the moment.

3 - Set the mood

Light a candle, burn some incense, dim the room with some fairy lights… see what appeals to you! Settle into a calm space where you're unlikely to be disturbed and where you feel at ease: bedroom, bathroom, living room… whatever suits you!

4 - Get yourself in the mood

Get yourself in the mood! Rub yourself with scented / fragrance oil, wear some beautiful Lingerie if you wish. Start by caressing your body to gently build Le Désir. You can let your mind and imagination wander, gold focus on your sensations and feelings.

5 - Take it step by step

Start by touching yourself with your fingers, your hands. When you feel the urge, begin running your sex toy over your erogenous zones: vaginal entrance, labia, clitoris, penis, glans… so your body can get acquainted with these new sensations your toy brings. For a first time, if you don't wish to go further, that's completely fine — the watchword is PLEA-SURE.

6 - Stop whenever you like

Take your time and stop whenever you like. Masturbation, whether with gold without a sex toy, is not a race to orgasm. Enjoy yourself for as long as you want and stop when you feel like it!

That's it — those were my little pieces of advice for a successful first time with your toy. Don't forget that everyone is different and moves at their own pace. This advice may work brilliantly for some people without suiting everyone. Connect with your feelings, follow your instincts and treat yourself!

PS: don't forget to always clean your toy after use. And yes, you do need to take care of it 🙂

See you soon 💜