Your first time with a sex toy

How do you use a sex toy?

You’ve chosen your first sex toy! Now it’s time to try it out.

Are you alone with this new toy you’ve never used before and feeling a little intimidated? Does using a sex toy seem to take away the spontaneity that usually leads you to masturbate, making it feel awkward to ‘plan’ this time for yourself? Are you used to masturbating before you fall asleep or when you wake up, rather than doing it mindfully?

Don’t worry: using a sex toy for the first time is like trying anything new! You might feel a little nervous at first, but once you get going, it often all falls into place and leaves you wanting more!

Let me share a few tips to make this first time with yourself and your new little friend one to remember!

1 - Get to know your toy

First things first: read the instructions so you can make the most of your new toy’s features! How do you change the speed? Is it waterproof? How long should you charge it before using it for the first time? What type of lube should you use with it? The manual will answer all these questions and more.

2 - Make time for it

Set aside some time for yourself. Try not to squeeze it in between two Zoom meetings or just before guests arrive. Choose a moment when you know you won’t be disturbed. If you feel rushed or worry about being late for something, your mind will be elsewhere and you’ll find it harder to enjoy yourself.

3 - Set the mood

Light a candle, burn some incense, dim the lights or put up some fairy lights… whatever appeals to you! Settle somewhere quiet where you won’t be disturbed and feel at ease: the bedroom, bathroom, living room… it’s up to you!

4 - Get yourself in the mood

Turn yourself on! Smooth on some scented oil and wear lovely lingerie if you fancy it. Start by caressing your body to let desire build gently. You can let your mind and imagination wander, or focus on what you’re feeling.

5 - Take it step by step

Start by touching yourself with your fingers and hands. When you feel ready, begin moving your sex toy over your erogenous zones: the vaginal opening, labia, clitoris, shaft, tip of the penis… Give your body time to get to know the new sensations your toy brings. If you don’t want to go any further the first time, that’s absolutely fine: the only goal is PLEA-SURE.

6 - Stop whenever you like

Enjoy yourself and stop whenever you like. Masturbation, with or without a sex toy, isn’t a race to orgasm. Keep enjoying yourself for as long as you want, and stop when you’re ready!

There you have it: my tips for a great first time with your toy. Remember, everyone is different and goes at their own pace. These tips might work wonders for one person but not suit someone else. Tune in to how you feel, follow your instincts and enjoy yourself!

P.S. Don’t forget to clean your toy after every use. Yes, it needs a little care too 🙂

See you soon 💜