The first time with a sex toy

How to use a sex toy?

There you go, you've chosen your first sex toy! Now it's time to use it...

Do you find yourself face to face with this new object you've never used before, feeling a bit intimidated? By using a sex toy, do you feel like you're losing the usual spontaneity that leads to masturbation, and does "planning" this moment with yourself make you feel awkward? Are you used to masturbating before falling asleep or when waking up, and not used to doing it mindfully?

Don't panic, the first time with a sex toy is just like the first time for anything! Often, we feel apprehensive, a bit stressed, and then once we get into it, everything goes smoothly and we want more!

Let me give you a few tips to make this first time with yourself and your new companion a moment you'll remember for a long time!

1 - Find out more

First of all, and to make the most of your new toy's features, read the instructions! How to change speeds? Is it waterproof? How long should it be charged before first use? What type of lube should be used with it? A whole host of questions that the user manual will answer.

2 - Set aside the time

Set aside some time for yourself, avoid doing this between two Zoom meetings or just before guests arrive. Take a moment just for you during which you are sure not to be disturbed. If you feel rushed and are worried about being late somewhere, your mind will be preoccupied and you'll find it harder to enjoy the moment.

3 - Set the mood

Light a candle, burn some incense, dim the room with fairy lights... it's up to you to see what you like! Settle into a quiet place where you won't risk being disturbed and where you feel comfortable: bedroom, bathroom, living room... as you please!

4 - Get in the mood

Get yourself in the mood! Coat yourself in scented oil, wear beautiful lingerie if you wish. Start by caressing your body to gently build up le désir. You can let your mind and imagination wander, or focus on your sensations and feelings.

5 - Take it step by step

Start by touching yourself with your fingers, your hands. When you feel like it, start moving your sex toy over your erogenous zones: vaginal opening, labia, clitoris, shaft, glans of the penis... so that your body gets acquainted with these new sensations your toy brings you. For a first time, if you don't wish to go any further, that's completely fine, the key word being PLEA-SURE.

6 - Stop whenever you feel like it

Have a good time and stop whenever you want. Masturbation, whether with or without a sex toy, is not a race to orgasm. Enjoy yourself for as long as you like and stop whenever you want!

So, those were my tips for a successful first time with your toy. Remember that everyone is different and goes at their own pace. These tips might work wonders for some without suiting everyone. Tune in to your feelings, follow your instincts, and enjoy yourself!

PS: don't forget to always clean your toy after use. And yes, you need to take care of it 🙂

See you soon 💜