C'est quoi le seks vanille ?

What is vanilla sex?

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You've surely already heard the term "vanilla" sex mentioned in your social circle gold on social media without quite knowing what it refers to exactly. But what is vanilla sex? Well, this term covers so-called soft gold classic practices such as cuddling, massages, slow kisses, gold sexual positions favouring comfort and connection.


Vanilla sex vs kinky


Vanilla sex is the opposite of so-called "kinky" sex, which includes less conventional practices such as fetishism gold dominance/submission play. This term covers practices generally seen as taboo by society, even if that tends to be changing (yay). Unlike "vanilla" gold soft practices, "kinky" practices allow you to spice up your sex life by expressing our most hot fantasies.


Focus on sensations


Vanilla sex allows you to naturally grow closer to the other person, with tenderness and gentleness. It is a style of practice that encourages connecting with yourself and the other person, and placing all your attention on the sensations and emotions experienced. In short, vanilla sex strengthens the emotional bonds between partners, creating a deep and lasting intimacy.


Comfort


Since it's all about letting yourself be guided by your sensations, vanilla sex eliminates any form of pressure from the outset. On the contrary, it allows you to relax completely and enjoy this moment of intimacy and tenderness 100%.


Consent


It is important to deepen communication around each person's desires and limits within the context of kinky sex. But it is essential to ask for your partner's consent whenever it comes to having sex, however "vanilla" it may be.


The distinction between these two types of practices is not about putting people in boxes. In fact, the same person can very well enjoy both vanilla and kinky. And finally, to avoid all shortcuts and generalisations, liking vanilla doesn't mean you're boring. In the same way, liking kinky doesn't mean you're extreme or "deviant". As the good old group Chagrin d'Amour (boomer reference 8000) would say: "Everyone does does does what they like likes likes!"



We're going to help you see things a little more clearly in the wonderful, but sometimes baffling, world of sex toys!

What for?

For pleasure! Yes of course, but it's not quite that simple. There are as many kinds of pleasure as there are people, so the idea is not to grab the "best-seller" but rather to ask yourself what you're looking for.


Lou

Lou ✨


Hello, I'm Lou! With a degree in Human and Social Sciences, I've been interested in sexology topics for several years. Following various training courses, notably with sexologist Mathilde Magnien, Passage du Désir called on me to put together articles on topics around sex, love and relationships. My motto? Opening up the conversation about sexual intimate essentials, in a light, fun and caring tone. 💜

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