Why use sensate focus in a couple?

The  sensate focus is an approach put into practice by sexologists as part of certain couple therapies. Why are we talking about it? Because the foundation of this method could be a GAME CHANGER (basically, it's life-changing for non-English speakers) in your relationship. We'll tell you why in a few points.

A progressive method to explore your intimacy at your own pace

With sensate focus, the sexologist encourages you to face your partner. Initially, you are simply invited to brush against each other, to touch lightly. In this exercise, you need to focus on your emotions and physical sensations. This state is called sensory mindfulness. As the sessions progress, the contacts become more intimate (always according to your desires). You can touch, massage, kiss each other. You are also invited to communicate with each other about your needs and limits, in the most open way possible.

A quasi-meditative state that offers moments of deep connection with the other

Little by little, a connection both physical and emotional is created with your partner. You become more and more naturally anchored in the present moment and manage to disregard your environment. The other's body heat, touch, smell, taste, but also hearing... all your senses are engaged! The couple then recreates a bubble of trust, a safe place that allows each person to (re)become aware of their body and what feels good or not.

Focusing on the essentials helps to move away from anxiety and potential blockages

By creating this bubble where only the two of you exist, you detach from any external source of stress or anxiety. Considering your intimate relationships by focusing solely on your sensations allows you to disregard what is around. You move away from the intrusive thoughts that usually haunt you (complexes, performance, anxiety), and the blockages gradually evaporate. Not bad, huh?!

Here is why sensate focus, whether in the context of therapy or not, can be a real asset in your relationship. However, always consult a professional if you encounter significant problems. This article in no way replaces the help of a sexual health professional.