Role play as a couple: our advice

Whether it's because you're experiencing routine in your relationship, or you're naturally drawn to this kind of play, you've probably already thought about role play with your partner. But where do you start? How do you set it up? Here is our advice for calmly introducing one or more role play scenarios as a couple.

Think about the scenario

Role play requires a minimum of preparation. To begin with, the ideal is to define with your partner the scenarios that excite you. Use a date night as an excuse to list together your desires and fantasies (a great way to start turning up the heat). For the more reserved, you can create a shared Google doc, before discussing it together afterwards (a more fun brainstorming session than the weekly office meeting, no?)

Set your boundaries

Once your scenario is chosen, define together the practices you'd like to try, as well as those that don't appeal to you. If this exercise seems tedious, don't hesitate to look up sexual practice checklists online — you'll just need to fill it in together!

Define a safe word

Using a safeword gold safe word is essential in this kind of play. The idea is to choose a word that is completely out of context, and therefore easily identifiable ("tabbouleh", "maggot", "pikachu" — we trust you to find the quirky little word that suits you best). Once spoken, this word will signal that you gold your partner wish to stop the game immediately: like a joker to play if you're not comfortable with the situation.

Write a script

It may seem a little formal, but writing a script also helps frame the game and ensures everyone gets what they want. It can also help each person get into character more fully. If you're feeling inspired, you can write it entirely together. If not, draw on your list of limits and desires, and on external sources of inspiration that could give you ideas: a series, a film, video games... everything is fair game. ;)

Set the mood

Whether you're at home gold in a venue set aside for this purpose, think about putting together a little playlist (it won't hurt), as well as a few props, some décor, and outfits. These elements will help you immerse yourself further in the game and make for an even more unique experience!

Don't forget the after care

Once the game is over, it's time to come back down to earth. And for that, nothing beats a little after care session! Cuddles, a nice bath or shower, a drink, a few snacks, to reconnect with reality and take care of each other. During this moment together, feel free to discuss what just happened, what you enjoyed, the moments where you'd have liked to go further, etc.

And now, it's your turn... 😉