(Making) love from a distance

These days, it’s common to start or continue a relationship while living apart. (Making) love from a distance isn’t for every couple, but for some it works beautifully. Want to know how? We’ll let you in on their secrets:

How do you communicate?

Calls, video chats, messages, photos… There are endless ways to keep the spark alive and make it burn brighter. Choose whatever feels most natural and right for your relationship. Every couple is different: some prefer to see and hear each other, while others would rather write long love letters (hot or not, for that matter). If your handwriting also looks like a seven-year-old’s, you can always exchange emails… You get the idea: the key is to choose ways of communicating that suit your personalities and what you both want.

How do you stay connected?

If messaging each other round the clock bores you, there are other ways to connect: watch a film at the same time, listen to your favourite artist’s latest song together, or play a game. Games can help keep your bond strong and, for some partners, even spark arousal. You could invent your own game, for example (hot or not, anyone?). Or you could get a toy made especially for long-distance fun. We have a few suggestions for you 👇

No pressure

You might also prefer having sex in person. In that case, the wait will only build anticipation for your reunion, and that’s absolutely fine too! Don’t put pressure on yourself. Sharing your feelings, fears, needs and desires is far more important than sex itself. There’s no obligation to have sex from a distance if the idea doesn’t feel right for you. What matters most in a long-distance relationship is keeping your bond and mutual trust strong.

Trust and communication

Trust is a cornerstone of love, especially when you’re in a long-distance relationship. Have a doubt? Talk to your partner about it directly. When there’s a misunderstanding or something left unsaid, seeing each other in person can quickly smooth things over. But in a long-distance relationship, you need to be especially clear when you communicate. By keeping in regular touch, you’ll be better able to deal with misunderstandings or rumours that can sometimes be damaging to a relationship.

Shall we finish with the sort of cheesy line we love? "Love knows no borders". Seriously, though, if you believe in your relationship and make the effort to keep it straightforward and healthy, there’s no reason it can’t work! Don’t you agree?