How often should a couple make love

As you know, everyone does whatever pleases them when it comes to material of sexuality.

Yet you love making things hard for yourself and cluttering your mind with unhelpful questions like "How often should a couple have sex?".

Even if there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this million-dollar question, let's see if there's a tailored answer depending on the type of couple. 🧐

A matter of desire 🔥

Of course, there are couples who have sex every single day. There are also those who do it once a month, once a quarter, or never at all. What sets them apart is their sexual desire for one another, but also more broadly each person's individual libido. On top of being unique to everyone and not always in sync with your partner's, libido covers all sorts of desires—not just sexual ones—and varies based on numerous factors.

Factors that influence libido ✉️

• Lifestyle: 

sedentary lifestyle, stress, sleep, menstrual cycle... a whole bunch of external factors that make us more or less caliente at any given time

• The weather:

and yes Jammie, we generally feel more like having sex when it's not -4° under the duvet (but if that's your thing, you deserve a snowflake award for your 🍑)

• The relationship phase:

fusion, differentiation, exploration, intimacy... To dig deeper into the topic, check out our article "The 4 phases of a couple"

• Communication:

a partner with whom you can talk openly about consent, kinks, or even mental health goes a long way toward building trust and feeling ready to desire each other.

In conclusion 👇

As expected, there is no magic answer to the question "How often should a couple have sex?". 

Now you know what affects this famous number, and you've hopefully understood that it can vary from one couple to another and from one period to the next. 

So no pressure, just listening, communication to find the balance that suits your relationship, and love of course. 💖