You know it — everyone does (does does) what they please (please please) when it comes to sexuality.
But you love torturing yourself and filling your head with pointless questions like "How often should a couple have sex?".
Even if there's no universal answer to this million-dollar question, let's see whether there's an answer that fits depending on the type of couple. 🧐
A matter of desire 🔥
Of course, there are couples who have sex every day. There are also those who do it once a month, once a quarter, or not at all. What sets them apart is their sexual desire for one another, but also, more broadly, each person's libido. As well as being unique to each individual and not always in sync with their partner's, libido encompasses a whole range of desires that aren't solely sexual and varies according to many factors.
Factors that affect libido ✉️
Lifestyle:
a sedentary lifestyle, stress, sleep, menstrual cycle... a whole host of external factors that make us more or less in the mood at any given time
The weather:
and yes Jammie, generally we're more in the mood when it's not -4° under the duvet (but if that's your thing, you deserve your snowflake of the 🍑)
The phase of the relationship:
fusion, differentiation, exploration, intimacy... To dig deeper into the subject, read our article "The 4 phases of a relationship"
Communication:
a partner with whom you can freely talk about consent, kinks or even mental health — that helps enormously to build confidence and feel ready to desire the other person.
In conclusion 👇
As expected, there is no magic answer to the question "How often should a couple have sex?".
But now you know what influences this famous number, and you've hopefully understood that it can vary from one couple to another and from one period of life to another.
So no pressure — just listening and communication to find the balance that works for our relationship, and love, of course. 💖
Lou ✨
Hi, I'm Lou! With a degree in Human and Social Sciences, I've been interested in sexuality topics for several years. Following various training courses, including with sexologist Mathilde Magnien, Passage du Désir called on me to put together articles on topics around sex, love and relationships. My motto? Opening up the conversation about sexual wellbeing, in a light, fun and caring way. 💜
Lou ✨
Hi, I'm Lou! I have a degree in humanities and social sciences, and I've been interested in sexuality for several years. After completing several training courses, including one with sexologist Mathilde Magnien, Passage du Désir asked me to write articles for you about sexuality, love and relationships. My motto? Get people talking openly about sexual wellbeing, with a light-hearted, fun and supportive approach. 💜
Dommage que vous ne mentionniez pas la fluctuation des hormones des femmes avec leurs envies … et l absence totale de libido parfois !
Tellement bien résumé ! Notamment les 4 phrases du couple,mais comment aborder ce que l on désir ou aimerait explorer avec sa partenaire sans la choquer ou provoquer de la frustration !