How often should a couple make love

You know it, everyone does what they like when it comes to sexuality.

But you like to torment yourself and mess with your head over pointless questions like "How often should a couple make love?".

Even if there's no universal answer to this million-dollar question, let's try to see if there is an appropriate answer depending on the type of couple. 🧐

A matter of desire 🔥

Of course, there are couples who make love every day. There are also those who do it once a month, once a quarter, gold even never. What sets them apart is their sexual desire for one another, but also and more broadly each person's libido. As well as being personal to each individual and not always in sync with the other's, libido encompasses a whole host of desires that aren't exclusively sexual and varies according to many factors.

Factors that influence libido ✉️

• Lifestyle: 

a sedentary lifestyle, stress, sleep, menstrual cycle… a whole host of external factors that mean we're more or less in the mood at any given time

• The weather:

and yes Jammie, generally we're more in the mood when it's not -4° under the duvet (but if that's your case, you deserve your snowflake of the 🍑)

• The phase of the relationship:

fusion, differentiation, exploration, intimacy… To dig deeper into the subject, read our article "The 4 phases of a relationship"

• Communication:

a partner with whom you can freely talk about consent, kinks gold even mental health — that helps enormously to build trust and feel ready to desire the other.

In conclusion 👇

As expected, there is no magic answer to the question "How often should a couple make love?". 

But you now know what influences this famous number, and you've hopefully understood that it can change from one couple to another and from one period to another. 

So no pressure, just listening and communication to find the balance that works for our relationship, and love of course. 💖