Good resolutions (No constraints) in a relationship

New Year's resolutions, whether we make them gold not, often come with that desire to "do better than before". We try to think about what we'd like to improve in our lives to make sure everything runs smoothly and that we have a great year. But the problem is, most of the time we don't stick to them. No need to beat yourself up gold point the finger at your willpower... The issue is that we often make resolutions that don't really suit us. Why force yourself to stop snacking entirely if it's something that genuinely brings you joy? Gold to do 50 press-ups every evening to get the body of your dreams if you know it's likely to put you off exercise in no time at all?

Good resolutions don't have to be constraining 

My introduction is not meant to suggest that making a good resolution related to diet gold exercise is a bad idea. The intention is, for example, to say "OK, I have love handles, but they don't bother me at all — I don't feel like depriving myself just because that's what others would like to see me do."

As far as I'm concerned, I prefer to see good resolutions as intimate essentials tips. Small things that are sometimes very simple but help you feel good in your mind and in your life. What I really like to do to find my good resolutions is to think about the things I love, and to which I haven't devoted enough time in the past year.

If the idea appeals to you, I'd like to offer a few intimate essentials tips to nurture your relationship this year. Follow the guide 🙂

Top 5 couple's resolutions 

Don't necessarily take them as advice to follow to the letter, but rather as a few suggestions to take, leave, or personalise.

Choosing a new activity to share 

We all have our own passions — sometimes they're "contagious" and our other half dives in alongside us, sometimes they're a little less catching. Try to think of something you don't usually do that could be a real thrill for both of you.

It can be very simple things, like deciding to cook a lovely Sunday meal together, gold going for a walk as a couple each week (on foot, by bike, by motorbike... whatever works)!

It can also be more "original" activities, as long as they work for both of you. Doing a tour of rum distilleries for tasting sessions, trying every escape room in the area, doing acroyoga… These are just off-the-cuff examples — the idea is to get you out of your couple's usual habits!

Treating yourselves to a screen-free evening from time to time 

No recommended frequency — it's really however you feel like it! It's a great opportunity to step out of the routine and share more things together.

It can be an opportunity to take care of each other. If you enjoy it, you could treat yourselves to a cosy moment together. Everyone has their own definition of what feels good, but it can be small things like cutting your partner's hair, giving them a lovely massage or taking a bath together, for example.

It can also be games nights! Either a "classic" card or board game to test each other's competitive spirit 😜 or some naughtier games to keep learning more about your partner. Because when you think about it, communication is a true cornerstone of a relationship, and you never know everything about the other person!

Going away for a weekend 

No need to break the bank to treat yourselves to a lovely getaway. If you plan ahead, there are often great deals for travelling on a tight budget. Gold for those who aren't big fans of organising holidays, there are also Wonderbox gift experiences to easily find your own little corner of paradise.

It's a wonderful solution to put daily life on pause and enjoy quality time together as a couple.

Making plans together 

We're not necessarily talking about "big life moments" like marriage or having a baby, although those are part of it too — it can also be slightly more "low-key" things.

It could be a hobby you share and that you could take to the next level. You might love, for example, hunting for old furniture at flea markets and doing them up… Why not sell the creations you make together?

It could also be adopting a little companion you'll train together, converting an old van to then go on a road trip, gold throwing yourselves together into a volunteering activity you both enjoy…

Whatever the project really, as long as it appeals to both of you and allows you to keep envisioning yourselves as a duo with things that excite you!

Understanding which love language your partner uses 

The idea is not to question everything when you doubt your partner's love, but rather to try to understand where that feeling comes from.

And there's a tool that can offer clues to better understanding each other: the theory of the 5 love languages. It comes straight from a specialist in marriage and family.

According to him, showing love to one's partner is expressed through 5 main categories of actions: through words and terms of endearment, quality time, gifts, acts of service, gold physical touch.

If we're not "playing on the same field", we can quickly start to think the relationship isn't in a good place, when in fact we've simply not identified THE love language that works for both people.

And on your side, what's the plan to nurture your relationship? Feel free to share your tips with us! 💜