Dirty Talk: how to set it up?

What is dirty talk?

Dirty talk, which can be translated as "dirty talking," refers to the words one can say during sexual intercourse. Contrary to what one might think, this expression does not only concern very crude or lewd words, as its name might suggest. From the simple "I love you" to the hottest words, dirty talk is an art in itself! And today we give you the keys to master it to perfection.

Why use dirty talk?

A very simple question but one that still deserves an answer.

As you know, a physical relationship appeals to all our senses: hearing, smell, touch, taste, and sight. Whispering sweet (or not) words during sex can therefore stimulate your hearing, which can be a real booster of excitement. Of course, we all have our favorite sense during love-making. While some love the sensation of a cold lubricant, others prefer their partner's scent. But for the auralist team, dirty talk can really increase excitement in no time.

So to answer the question "but why practice dirty talk?" I would say that:

• it allows for a change from the routine
• it can be integrated into role-playing games
• it can help let go by freeing oneself from a certain inhibition
• it's terribly exciting

Have I convinced you to chat during sex? Great, but then...

How to implement dirty talk?

It's a real question because if we go about it the wrong way, it can at best make us laugh, at worst, ruin the mood, end the encounter, or hurt the other person.

We can never repeat it enough, but for dirty talk as for any sexual practice, consent is man-da-to-ry. Please, do not call your partner names during an encounter without having confirmed that it excites them.

That being said, here are our little practical tips for setting up dirty talk that will make you shiver with desire.

Talk about it together

The first step is to talk about it with your partner. Would they like you to talk to them during lovemaking? Do they prefer that you take charge of it? Once you have agreed on this point, make a list (oral or written) of what you can say or not and when to say it. For example, agree to start with light words, and why not finish in a more raw manner. Do you want your partner to whisper a few words in your ear during orgasm or do you prefer to be left alone at that moment? By agreeing on what to say and when to say it, you will avoid mishaps that could cool the mood.

Be attentive to your partner's reactions.

Does your partner seem excited by what you just said? Or on the contrary, did it create a chill? Be attentive to the other and their slightest reactions to adapt your "speech." Observe your partner and wait until the excitement has risen to engage in dirty talk. The chances of ruining the mood if you start off with an insult while you're still clothed are very high.

Go gradually

If you have never practiced dirty talking before, you can start very gently, with simple "I love you" or "you are so beautiful/handsome." You can gradually cultivate your erotic universe by integrating increasingly hot words.

Agree on a safe word.

So yes, we're not talking about BDSM, but it can be interesting to use a safe word if you feel it's not the right moment or if what your partner just said doesn't excite you at all. This will prevent ruining the mood and the interaction can continue smoothly.

Debrief after sex

Don't forget to debrief together once the interaction is over! By telling each other what you preferred, what you would have liked them to say... This will make future times even more exciting!

Dirty talk: some examples

If you lack imagination or need some ideas of phrases to whisper to your beloved, here are some examples that will have an effect under the sheets.

In sensual mode

I want you

I am all yours

In question mode

Do you like that?

What would you like me to do to you?

Do you want more?

In compliment mode

Your body drives me crazy

You are so beautiful/handsome/sexy

You make me so wet/hard

You do that so well

In program explanation mode

I'm going to **** you all night

I'm going to give you a good time

I'm going to **** you until you come

I'm going to come

In instruction mode

Lick me/suck me

Turn around

Don't move

Keep going

I want to hear you come

I want you to come inside me

Take me

Touch yourself/touch me

If it excites you, you can also agree with your partner to use some much, much bolder words. When consented to, and used in the right context, they can have quite an effect. For those words, I'll let you and your partner pick what would please you most from your erotic imagination 🙂

See you soon 💜