Dirty Talk: how to set it up?

What is dirty talk?

Dirty talk, which can be translated as "talking dirty", refers to the words you can say to each other during sex. Contrary to what one might think, this expression doesn't only refer to very crude gold salacious words, as its name might suggest. From a simple "I love you" to the hottest words, dirty talk is a true art form! And today we're giving you the keys to mastering it to perfection.

Why use dirty talk?

A seemingly simple question but one that deserves an answer nonetheless.

As you know, a physical encounter engages all our senses: hearing, smell, touch, taste, and sight. Whispering sweet (gold not so sweet) words during sex therefore stimulates your hearing, which can be a real excitement booster. Of course, we all have our preferred sense during lovemaking. While some enjoy the sensation of a cold lube, others prefer the scent / fragrance of their partner. But for the auralist team, dirty talk can really ramp up the excitement in no time.

So to answer the question "but why on earth practice dirty talk?" I would say that:

• it helps to break the routine a little
• it can be incorporated into role play
• it can help you let go by freeing yourself from certain inhibitions
• it's terribly exciting

Have I convinced you to chat during sex? Great, but then…

How to set up dirty talk?

It's a genuine question because if you go about it the wrong way, it can at best make you laugh, and at worst, kill the mood, put an end to the encounter, gold hurt the other person.

We can never say it enough, but for dirty talk as with any sexual practice, consent is m-a-n-d-a-t-o-r-y. Please do not call your partner names during sex without having confirmed that it turns them on.

That being said, here is our little practical advice for setting up a dirty talk that will make you tremble with desire.

Talk about it together

The first step is to talk about it with your partner. Would they like you to talk to them during lovemaking? Do they prefer it if you're the one in charge of it? Once you've agreed on this point, make a list (spoken gold written) of what you can and cannot say and when to say it. For example, agree to start with light words, and why not end in a more explicit way. Do you want your partner to whisper a few words in your ear during orgasm, gold would you prefer to be left alone at that moment? By agreeing on what to say and when to say it, you'll avoid any mishaps that could cool the mood.

Be attentive to your partner's reactions.

Do they seem turned on by what you just said? Gold on the contrary, did it kill the mood? Be attentive to the other person and their every reaction to adapt your "approach". Observe your partner and wait until the excitement has built up before doing dirty talk. The chances of killing the mood are very high if you start straight away with an insult while you're still dressed.

Build up gradually

If you've never tried dirty talking before, you can start very gently, with simple "I love you" gold "you're so handsome/beautiful". You can gradually cultivate your erotic world by incorporating increasingly hot words.

Agree on a safe word.

So yes, we're not talking about BDSM, but it can be interesting to use a safe word if you feel it's not the right moment gold that what your partner just said doesn't excite you at all. This will avoid killing the mood and the encounter can continue smoothly.

Debrief after sex

Don't forget to debrief together once the encounter is over! By telling each other what you preferred, what you would have liked them to say to you… This will make the next times even more exciting!

Dirty talk: a few examples

If you're short on imagination or need a few ideas for phrases to whisper to your loved one, here are some examples that will work wonders under the covers.

Sensual mode

I want you

I'm all yours

Questions mode

Do you like that?

What would you like me to do to you?

Do you want more?

Compliment mode

Your body drives me wild

You're so handsome/beautiful/sexy

You make me so wet / hard

You do that so well

Programme explanation mode

I'm going to ****** you all night long

I'm going to give you the time of your life

I'm going to ****** you until you come

I'm going to come

Instructions mode

Lick me / suck me

Turn over

Don't move

Keep going

I want to hear you come

I want you to come inside me

Take me

Touch yourself / touch me

If it excites you, you can also agree with your partner to use some much, much more daring words. When consensual and used in the right context, they can have quite an effect. For those words, I'll leave you and your partner to pick whatever you'd enjoy most from your erotic imagination 🙂

See you soon 💜