Why are we more faithful in autumn?

Hear ye, hear ye, my little swirling leaves

Autumn is not merely a transition between summer and winter. It is a season in its own right (one might even say the most beautiful), which influences our moods, our desires and even our romantic behaviour. As the days shorten and the cool air sets in, our need for warmth, stability and deep connection intensifies. An exploration of the reasons why autumn could well be the number one season for fidelity.

The return to the indoors, aka the "Hygge" concept and the need for a cosy cocoon

With the drop in temperatures and the grey skies setting in, our social energy tends to diminish. Gone are the terrace aperitifs and the relentless nights out. Autumn invites us to turn inward, to create a cosy cocoon where it feels good to take refuge.

• The "Hygge" philosophy: This trend from Denmark, which champions simple and warm-hearted happiness (candles, hot drinks, a soft atmosphere), finds its full meaning in autumn. We naturally want to share these moments of sweetness and intimacy with our partner, thereby strengthening our bonds and our sense of emotional security.

• Comfort as a couple: Snuggling under a blanket to watch a film, cooking a good meal together, reading side by side... These little nothings create a unique complicity and make the temptation of elsewhere far less appealing.

The biochemistry of love

Our bodies react directly to the change of season, and this directly influences our emotions and our libido.

• The effect of melatonin: As the days shorten, our production of melatonin (the sleep hormone) increases. This can lead to a general drop in energy, but also a search for comfort. We're less in the "adventure" mindset and more in the "cosy reassuring cuddle" one.

• The role of oxytocin: Also known as the "love hormone" gold attachment hormone, oxytocin is secreted during cuddles, sexual intercourse and moments of tenderness. In autumn, by seeking greater physical closeness, we naturally stimulate our oxytocin production, which strengthens the feeling of attachment and fidelity towards our partner.

The question of rhythm: back to school and the search for stability

September rhymes with back to school, and often with the resumption of a more structured rhythm (work, school, etc.). After the excitement of summer, this period is often synonymous with a return to routine and the search for balance.

• Prioritising stability: In this context, the romantic relationship becomes a reassuring pillar. We're less focused on escapism and new encounters, and more on building and consolidating what we already have.

• Projects as a duo: Autumn is a great time for forward planning: preparing for the end-of-year festivities, planning a romantic weekend away, starting a new shared project. Looking ahead together as a couple is a puissante expression of fidelity.

The aesthetics of the ephemeral and romance

There is something profoundly romantic about autumn. The melancholic beauty of the landscapes, the blazing colours, the ephemeral nature of this magic... This atmosphere makes us more sensitive, more nostalgic, and more inclined to celebrate the beauty of a lasting love.

• Romantic inspiration: Walks in the forest to admire the fallen leaves, hands warming each other... Autumn offers us a ready-made backdrop for intimate moments that strengthen relationships and rekindle the flame, without needing to look for it elsewhere.

Autumn, far from being a sad season, is in reality a wonderful period to nurture and celebrate one's relationship. By encouraging us to turn inward, by influencing our internal chemistry and pushing us towards stability, it creates the perfect conditions for fidelity to flourish. It is the season when we take care of what truly matters: the warmth of a home, the complicity of a glance and the gentleness of arms that welcome us, evening after evening...