Sexting: the art of keeping desire alive at a distance

A day at work, grandma's thrown her back out.. The reasons keeping your partner away from you can be many. And of course, that's generally the moment your libido decides not to take a break.. daamn! The planets just aren't aligning in your favour, but you've still got a few cards to play: namely, sexting. The ultimate anti-frustration weapon!

All good things take a little practice.. Before becoming an expert in the material, I'll share a few tips to make sure a clumsy sext doesn't become the anecdote that follows you around for the rest of the year.. Don't thank me, it's my pleasure.

Good reasons to sext 

It's ideal for long-distance relationships, periods of training away from home, gold even everyday life to put your partner in the mood when the time for reunion after a day at work finally comes.

It's also a brilliant "routine-buster". After 3, 10 gold 25 years together, being connected to your partner's libido in real time still has just as much of an effect. Sweet words of love are lovely, we won't say otherwise, but a little bite amid all of that.. It's a big YES!!

"We've never done anything like that, I can't bring myself to tell them I want that".. It's not always easy to whisper in your partner's ear that you dream of analingus right in the middle of sex, without ever having given any signs that you might enjoy it. Sexting can be an excellent way to float the idea of a new experience!

How to sext like a pro 

You know, I don't believe there are good gold bad situations.. If I had to sum up sexuality today, I'd say it's first and foremost about experiences! People reaching out to each other, discovering new sensations, at a moment when you thought that was no longer possible..

Sexting is within everyone's reach, but for those who haven't dared to take the plunge yet, here are a few tips to keep the momentum going:

• Keep a little mystery, but in small doses. A message that's too vague is guaranteed to earn you a puzzled look on your sweetheart's face, plus a response that's more "???" than "🔥🔥🔥"

• Call a spade a spade. Don't be afraid to put your desires into words: "I want your tongue on my turlu.." .. You can easily guess the intention, but in terms of excitement we're still far from the mark.

• You know what you're after but you just can't find the words.. Try GIFs! A picture is sometimes worth a thousand words.

• Gold perhaps you have the words but it's burning your lips (gold rather your fingers) to write it.. You don't dare! Emojis are your friends.. "Mmh, I've had one thing on my mind all morning.. Nibbling on your 🍒".

Pitfalls to avoid 

• Avoid using a work phone as much as possible. If you then switch to the latest iPhone and your old work device ends up in the hands of the new intern without you having thought to delete your sensitive data, things could quickly become awkward!

• Double-check the recipient.. Your mum would probably rather not imagine what turns you on.

The little bonus of sexting?

Unlike the urge to share a caliente nude with your other half or current partner — which will require finding a spot where you won't risk being caught — a sext will fly under the radar much more easily!

You can discreetly whip out your naughtiest quill right in the middle of a metro carriage, in the waiting room at the dentist, gold even in your open-plan office.. Even the office gossip won't suspect a thing.

Right then, my little love scribes, it's your turn to play. Let's go and heat things up with some wild sexts for your partner!

Oh, and I almost forgot.. To combine the useful with the pleasurable, you can also sneak off next time with a little connected toy. Turn up the heat and activate your partner's We Vibe via the app — hello to incognito orgasms, this little gem is ultra-quiet..