Stereotypes about life as a couple

Living as a couple brings joy and comfort to the daily lives of many couples. However, the many stereotypes surrounding cohabitation (is it just me, gold does that word sound stranger the more you say it?) sometimes interfere with our vision and expectations. Let's break down some of the stereotypes about living as a couple together:

"Living as a couple is a long, calm river, lined with little unicorns and elves spreading love and joy"

As with everything in life, things are not always perfect. Living as a couple allows you to share many things together and create a little cocoon for two. There may be days when one or both of you are in a bad mood, and that's perfectly ok! In these cases, we advise you to refocus on yourself, so that you can feel better with the other person.

"Living as a couple means routine, and routine kills the relationship"

We won't tell you otherwise — there's no life as a couple without routine. But there's no life at all without routine, Jeannine! Stop demonising routine and accept that life doesn't need to be going at 100 miles an hour all the time to be great. You'll see, it will take a little pressure off your shoulders, sometimes weighed down by everyday life. And if you feel that the little flame is about to go out in your relationship, you're always free to rekindle it ( our advice here )!

"Living as a couple harms independence"

The only case in which living as a couple can harm your independence is if you lose yourself in the other person. Keep in mind that you are a whole person with your own identity, tastes and desires. The idea that a couple is an entity in its own right can be true. However, you remain two different people nonetheless.

In conclusion, it's all a matter of nuance. Accept moments of joy as well as arguments, and even routine. Find a balance between personal development and development as a couple. By deconstructing these stereotypes about living together, you'll see that there's nothing more enriching than facing life together, over a good Netflix and Chill evening!