Helloooo little frivolous leaves
It's summer, the weather is nice, it's (veeeery) hot and we want to say to you:
HEATWAVE ME IF YOU CAN.
Understand by that, it's the season of spontaneous chatter, crushes popping up at every street corner (where are they in November by the way?), wild nights and mornings... and for some, the ongoing race for performance...
A number of misconceptions are hidden which we are debunking here, you know us!
1. Giving your partner an orgasm: final destination?
In common imagination, a sexual encounter that doesn't end in an orgasm is seen as a form of failure...
HOWEVER, we must remind here that the pleasure associated with the journey is just as or even more important and beneficial for intense pleasure.
The orgasm is the cherry on the cake, not the recipe for that cake. Focusing solely on this climax can create counterproductive pressure that turns a moment of connection and sensuality into an anxious quest for performance.
The shivers, the shared laughs, the intimacy of caresses, the discovery of the other, of others... It's 100% enjoyable. So, let's drop the injunctions and feel!
2. Sexual endurance is synonymous with ultimate pleasure.
SPOILER ALERT round 2: well, no.
When we imagine a perfect intimate encounter, we think it must last a long time... BUT COME ON!
It's a myth that has lingered since the dawn of time, popularized by cinema culture that has lulled us with endless and noisy encounters.
In reality, team Quality > Quantity 💜
A few connected, attentive minutes truly in the present are infinitely more pleasurable than a mechanical, exhausting, and sometimes painful hour-long marathon.
Chasing performance over duration can be a source of anxiety and take us out of the moment.
- Want a secret?
Listening, presence, and authenticity are the keys to surrendering to the other and magic.
3. Multiplying positions maximizes pleasure
SPOILER ALERT last round: still no.
We can't count the number of videos present on social networks popping up in our feeds with big claims like "THE 10 POSITIONS THAT LEAD STRAIGHT TO ORGASM"...
Spare yourself a backache by chaining acrobatic figures like a gymnast at the Olympics (which you're probably not); pleasure is not a matter of variable geometry or complex choreography.
What matters is what happens in the position, not the position itself. The connection, the gaze, the movement, the rhythm, the way of caressing each other...
So, do we put away the stopwatch?
And also that darn performance pressure?
Summer whispers a much simpler truth in our ear: pleasure is a playground, not a battlefield.
There is no score to beat, no diploma to earn, or finish line to cross. There are only moments to seize, skins to brush, laughs to share, and connections to electrify.
The real warmth to capture is not the one falling from the sky, but the one born from the attention, curiosity, and gentleness we offer to each other.
Léa ☁️
Juggler of words for 10 years on various topics, I recently turned to sexology following training with Mathilde Magnien. Passionate about relational mechanisms, here, we will chat in a relaxed, inclusive, and (a bit) funny manner too.
