All about premature ejaculation

Aah premature ejaculation... One of the main reasons for consulting in sexology. What is it, why does it happen, and how to overcome it? We explore these questions in this article!

What is premature ejaculation?

First of all, even though the term "premature ejaculation" is known and used by many people, it is more accurate to describe this type of ejaculation as rapid. Indeed, the term premature implies a norm that should be adhered to; and as we know, in sexuality, there are no norms.

We talk about rapid ejaculation when it occurs before one or two minutes, even though most of the time, it happens after a few seconds or a few movements (penetration or caress). For some people, ejaculation occurs even before any physical contact, solely due to mental excitement. A quarter of people with a penis experience rapid ejaculation problems, and it can happen at any age.

We qualify an ejaculation as "premature" or rapid when three criteria are met:

• Ejaculation happens very quickly (less than 2 minutes after the start of intercourse)
• Ejaculation is not controlled
• It poses a problem for the person experiencing it

What are the causes of rapid ejaculation?

What are the main causes of rapid and uncontrolled ejaculation?

When we talk about rapid ejaculation, we are not exactly talking about a cause but an explanation. It is not an anomaly, so we do not look for a cause to a real problem, you follow? The three explanations that come up most often are:

• a lifestyle and way of thinking and functioning that is very fast. People who live at 100 miles an hour often ejaculate at the same speed
• a glans very sensitive to friction that can lead very quickly to orgasm
• strong emotionality that leads to very high excitement rising rapidly

During intercourse, certain positions can also increase excitement and thus ejaculation. The positions vary depending on the person. For example, for some, the view offered by doggy style is so exciting that it is almost impossible to hold back ejaculation. For others, it is the friction of a certain position or the pressure exerted on the pelvic muscles.

The explanations are as numerous as there are people affected by rapid ejaculation. However, one thing is certain: the more pressure we put on ourselves, the more tension there is, the faster ejaculation occurs. So how can we overcome this tension and get past this stress?

What techniques to remedy rapid ejaculation?

Good news: rapid ejaculation is one of the problems that is best resolved in sexology!

To learn to control your ejaculation, many techniques and exercises exist.

First of all, mentally focused techniques such as emotion management, breathing, relaxation and meditation, hypnosis, and acupuncture... Then there are physical techniques with pelvic movements, pelvic muscle control, sports... It is interesting to combine several of these techniques to act on the body and mind.

There are also medicinal techniques. Medications can indeed help relieve the stress and apprehension related to ejaculation problems at the beginning of a relationship, for example. But it is never a long-term solution because they do not address the "causes" of rapid ejaculation.

And the partner in all this?

If there is one thing to remember, it is that rapid ejaculation is NEVER the partner's fault, and they should not feel guilty. Incidentally, rapid ejaculation is a great opportunity to experiment with other ways of making love, without penetration: use your fingers, your mouths, toys... All means are good to give pleasure to both partners without going through penetration. Learn to explore the magical universe of sexuality! The book Jouissance Club is a treasure trove of information on this subject!

Even if the partner should not judge the person having ejaculation problems, it happens that they may be hurt by their behavior. Let me explain: if you suffer from premature ejaculation and your sexual intercourse ends with ejaculation, the person in front of you may feel neglected, misunderstood (whether the ejaculation is premature or not, do not forget that your partner is also there to enjoy). People who ejaculate quickly may also sometimes feel ashamed and withdraw into themselves and be angry after intercourse by excluding the other, which can be very hurtful. So I repeat once again: communicate!

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