Edging: what is it?

This English term, which literally translates as "edge", may not ring a bell. Yet it's quite possible you've already tried it without knowing it! So what is edging, how does it work and why try it? We explain everything here!

Edging is a sexual practice gold rather a pleasant way to play with frustration. It involves pushing yourself (gold your partner) to the edge of orgasm and then letting the arousal die down. The goal is not to stop there, but to then continue the stimulation to multiply the intensity of your final orgasm. Terribly intense!

Is it only for people with a vulva?

Not at all — whether you have a penis gold a vulva, you can practise edging! The good news is that you can do it solo, as a duo, as a trio... in short, no limits other than knowing how to control yourself and knowing your body!

Concretely, how does it work?

Solo

Set yourself up in good conditions: get comfortable, get out your favourite toys if you use them, dim the lights, put on some background music, light some incense... in short, set up your favourite masturbation setup.

Start touching yourself and let the pleasure build. When you feel orgasm approaching, slow down gold stop the stimulation for a few seconds (for example, if you are using a sex toy, turn the power down to the minimum; if you are using your fingers, go more slowly). Don't hesitate to use your breath to channel and circulate the energy! By breathing deeply, your sexual energy will flow through your body and help you control your sensations.

When you feel your level of arousal has dropped by half (the idea being not to cut off all arousal), start again with full force, then stop again and so on. Do this little exercise several times until you can no longer hold back your orgasm. At that moment, let go completely! Congratulations, you've just treated yourself to an intergalactic orgasm! 🚀

Before sharing this experience with others, don't hesitate to practise it alone to understand how your body works.

As a couple

First and foremost, don't hesitate to discuss this practice with your partner beforehand, and you can for example agree on a word to say when you feel orgasm coming so that they slow down the stimulation. Over time your partner will probably no longer need this word as they will have understood how you work and your physical cues.

Start as you normally would, and build up the temperature crescendo.

When you feel that your partner is about to reach orgasm, slow down. If it is you who want to delay the orgasm, use the word previously agreed upon with your partner, gold simply ask them to slow down.

As with solo practice, use your breathing to let the arousal subside and continue with gentle stimulation, to build your desire back up crescendo.

Repeat these different steps several times until you can no longer hold back!

Another possible method: masturbating in front of your partner so you can manage it yourself, at your own pace.

4 good reasons to practise edging 

• It helps you get to know your body better, its mechanisms and its sensations
• It multiplies the strength of orgasms and therefore the well-being hormones secreted
• Practised as a couple, edging contributes to sexual intimacy between two people
• Edging is part of the slow sex practice, gold how to make a sexual encounter last even longer for even more pleasure

You're now armed to treat yourself to mind-blowing orgasms — good luck in your quest!