Couple's argument: what to do?

When you're in a couple, you can sometimes get on each other's nerves (even more so when living together). Closeness, misunderstandings, frustrations, one dirty sock too many and BOOM, the couples' argument erupts! Easy does it, it's normal to squabble with the ones you love. We explain how to defuse the tension and keep it from happening too often. 🙂

Understanding where it comes from

While the hairball sitting at the bottom of the bathtub can be a good trigger, this element is often just a symptom of a deeper issue. Mental load, inequality in the relationship, stress... We'll let each of you do a bit of self-reflection on your own to identify the root cause of the tiff.

Talking to each other, calmly

Once you have a better idea of what you're holding against the other person, the trick is to bring it up the right way. So take some time together, perhaps over a glass of wine to unwind a bit, and try to explain what's wrong constructively, without taking jabs. Quick tip: use a talking stick (or a talking breadstick if you're at a restaurant) so everyone can speak and be heard.

Letting things settle

Once the explanations are done and the air is cleared, let things settle in your minds and work on solving the problem together. With the big talk out of the way, you can just do quick little check-ins from time to time to see if things have evolved. If it's still tense, it means you haven't talked about everything. Otherwise, that's great, NEXT!

Reconnecting ( where are you, you're not here )

Remind yourself of what you love most about your partner and spend quality time together to rediscover your bond. A date at a restaurant, a movie night, an afternoon delight... Up to you. 😉