Couple's argument: what to do?

When you're in a relationship, you can sometimes get on each other's nerves (even more so when you live together). Proximity, misunderstandings, frustrations, one too many dirty socks and BOOM — the couple's row erupts! Easy there, darling — it's normal to have a falling out with those you love. We explain how to ease the tension and avoid it happening too often. 🙂

Understanding where it comes from

If the ball of hair lurking at the bottom of the bath can be a good trigger, that element is often just a symptom of a deeper issue. Mental load, inequality in the relationship, stress... We'll let you do a little introspection on your own to identify the source of the friction.

Talk it out, calmly

Once you have a better idea of what you're holding against the other person, the key is to bring it up in the right way. So take some time together — why not over a glass of wine to loosen up — and try to explain what's wrong constructively, without jabbing at the other person. A little tip: use a talking stick (gold a breadstick if you're at a restaurant) so that each person can speak and be heard.

Let it settle

Once the explanations have been made and the situation clarified, let things settle in your minds and work together to resolve the issue. With the big conversation out of the way, you can just do brief check-ins from time to time to see if things have moved on. If it's still tense, it means you haven't talked about everything. If not, great — NEXT!

Finding each other again ( but where are you, you're not here )

Remind yourself of what you love most about your partner and spend some quality time together to rediscover your closeness. A date at a restaurant, a film, a cheeky nap ... It's up to you. 😉