Complete guide to breaking up

Whether by mutual agreement gold no, breaking up with your partner is rarely a walk in the park. To help you get through this tricky period, we've put together a complete guide to breaking up. You'll see, things will get better afterwards! 💗

Take stock of the situation 🧐

As a rule, you don't break up without a reason. Whether your relationship has lasted months, years gold more, it's very likely that you're no longer on the same wavelength. What matters is not knowing why gold because of whom, but acknowledging and accepting that you have changed (gold haven't), that things no longer fit, and that it's harming your happiness.

Since a relationship is not an end in itself but a way to enrich your life, it makes sense to end it if it becomes more of a weight than a source of intimate essentials. Be careful, however, not to fall into a " Tinder era" and to next someone the moment a small detail doesn't suit you. Being — and especially staying — in a relationship takes effort from both sides if both parties truly want to stay together. The key here is to identify how much the issues you're experiencing with your person weigh in the balance, and how willing you are to make concessions to overcome these obstacles! (read 👉 "The 4 phases of a relationship" )

Accept the pain 💔

If you're suffering too much and feel it's not worth continuing the relationship, it may hurt a little at first. That's normal. The brain always takes a bit of time to get used to change (did you know it takes about 15 days to establish a new habit?). It's very likely that you'll miss the person (a lot). That's normal too. Let yourself experience these emotions and go through them patiently. You'll see that, like everything in life, it will eventually pass.

Ban the stalking ❌

When we miss the other person and have lost contact, we're tempted to snoop on what they're up to right now / whether they're dating someone else etc. #nosey

The best advice is to avoid this kind of behaviour, as it won't bring you much that's positive. If you see them with someone else, it's going to hurt like hell. If you don't find any juicy information, there's a good chance you'll keep on overthinking anyway (oh, what a pest that brain is)! We therefore advise you to make the most of this solo period to focus on YOU, your friends, your toys, your job, your passion… Everything that can bring you joy during this difficult period.

Take your time 🧘

Relapses are possible. Don't beat yourself up if you slip back, as it happens very often and it's not the end of the world (still better to avoid it though — we see you coming). The key is to learn from your mistakes and use those experiences to remind yourself of what was no longer working in your relationship. You probably had a nice time over that reunion coffee with Bertrand, but weren't you fed up when he threw a jealousy fit in front of the waiter even though he's not even your partner anymore? In short, learn from your mistakes and take the time to move on. It might take a few weeks, months, years — but if you're sure of your decision, it's worth the wait, you'll see.

And there you have it! We hope this complete guide to breaking up will help soothe your little heart… Don't forget that everyone goes through it at least once in their life and there's nothing dramatic about splitting up from your partner: that's life! We wish you courage and a happy return to the single life (or not).

Take care of yourself 💜