In a relationship, how to communicate about one's desires

A swipe right on Tinder, a meeting at a party, on the bus or at the butcher, and bam.. It's a match with this stranger! There is that special feeling, the desire to know more, and gradually we fall into a budding relationship. We chat non-stop as if we were 15 and it was the first time, we learn to understand their personality, tastes, desires, projects. But when we've known each other for a while, daily life sometimes takes up more space than dialogue in the couple. It doesn't necessarily mean we're no longer interested in each other, but simply that we take less time to talk about our shared sexuality, for example, and especially about the "new things" we'd like to try together. If it's been a long time since you've brought up these kinds of topics.. Don't panic, I'll share some tips with you to better communicate your desires

Time out with the routine!

Beyond sometimes being a romance killer, routine can give the false impression that we no longer need to talk. After 15 years, it's fine, they know me by heart, no need to spend 3 hours catching up, it's our couple not a work meeting... Error Ginette!

Being on the same wavelength as your partner 24/7 is just a fantasy! So, unless you're telepathic, not talking is often what leads to arguments, which are often just a way to reset the couple's clocks.

I don't know about you, but for my part, I prefer quality time with my other half: more cuddles, more complicity, more connection... if that's also your case, you know what you need to do 😜

Honey, do you want to play?

Conversations like these without artifices are very cool when we manage to have them, but if it makes you anxious or you're not super comfortable with the idea, we can play it differently!

And speaking of playing, nothing better and more guilt-free than a card or board game to calmly bring certain topics to the table.

Are there certain things that are bothering you and you'd like to see change in your relationship? And hop... with a card, we subtly slip the info to our partner. Perfect for not having to regret not daring to talk about it later!

Are there areas of your body that deserve more attention? New practices you'd like to try? Bingo here too... The game takes care of breaking the ice for you!

You get the idea, rather than risking confronting your partner with a face-to-face full of reproaches and repressed anger, we talk without feeling like it in a super fun atmosphere! Really, it's the best, and it works... Pinky promise!

The brilliant games to better communicate as a couple

Every couple has their own game since we don't necessarily all have the same expectations, but I suggest a little top 3 of my favorites!

The most complete game

Created by the wonderful Jüne Plã, and her highly uncomplexed and inclusive perception of sexuality, the card game Jouissance Club is super complete!

No less than 65 “discussion” cards to learn even more about the chosen one of your heart. And no, even after X years of relationship, we don't necessarily know each other completely. This kind of cards that open up the “debate” on topics we don't necessarily discuss every day are real gems! We often realize that there are plenty of little things to try to make cuddles even more incredible 🥰

Another sixty cards, this time focused on tips and tricks. You will learn a lot about how to spice up your duo masturbation games, or include certain foods in your oral games for a delicious fruity taste, for example. Everything is explained without taboo and in a very playful way, it's really nice and instructive!

And finally, 75 “Try” cards that list many sexual practices. This category is a pure wonder for everyone. Whether you are fully fulfilled while wanting to discover even more to reach peaks of pleasure, or you are looking for inspiration to break the routine... There is everything you need in this game to have fun and/or rekindle the flame!

The game for those who don't like to play

Playing to communicate better and continue to build something healthy between us is super cute, but I don't like playing! Well, in reality, it's not a problem, you don't have to force yourself. If cards or board games really don't interest you, there are other ways to play without realizing it.

The Bank of Love checkbook is the perfect example of an option available to you! Yes, yes, you can play with a checkbook, rather than grimacing/crying when you use it 😂

The concept is super simple, it's actually pre-filled vouchers! The idea is to help you keep small attentions afloat. A perfect excuse to organize great quality moments together. We don't always realize that we aren't the most romantic or that it's been a little while since we last prepared surprises for them.

With this checkbook, it's an opportunity to make up for it. You add the date, your partner's name, a little doodle, and surprise them with “welcoming you in a sexy outfit one evening.” To change things up a bit and add some spice to your usual games, it's worth letting yourself be surprised by the checkbook's ideas!

The funniest game

Your partner and/or friends, an aperitif, a card game, that's what awaits you with the Apéri’cul! No less than 250 cards divided into different categories to talk about the subject that interests us all: the Q!

Here too, super simple to play. We roll the little die to see which category to draw the card from. Then, as they say, “all that's left is to do it!”

Regarding categories, there is quite a bit of diversity, so it's pretty nice to avoid going through everything too quickly. You will find quiz cards and cul-cm for a level of culture that will impress the crowd.

But there are also challenge cards - really fun games. Be careful not to launch the challenge while one of the participants is sipping their cocktail. I speak from experience. It quickly ends in a face shower, angry llama version, for the colleagues... Oops!

There are also truth cards and "who could" cards. Very fun to discover your soulmate or your friends in a new light.

In short, a treat to change from the usual game nights and have a good laugh! The cards are really cool, without being awkward and creating discomfort... You can play it without worry with your entourage! 

If you are already a fan of sex games, which one(s) have you already tried? Come and tell us about it on Instagram (@passagedudesir)