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What is BDSM?
BDSM, an acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism, is a set of erotic practices and games that explore power dynamics, consent and pleasure. It is based on fundamental principles such as informed consent, open communication and safety, allowing participants to explore their fantasies within a respectful framework. BDSM can include elements such as bondage, role-play and discipline, and every experience is unique, tailored to the desires and limits of each individual. It is a form of intimate expression that seeks to strengthen trust and connection between partners.
How to practise BDSM?
BDSM is a rich and varied practice encompassing a multitude of activities and relational dynamics. Beyond the physical aspects, it often involves a strong psychological component, where power play and trust play a central role. Participants, often called "dominants" and "submissives", negotiate their limits and desires before engaging in activities. This negotiation is essential to ensure that everyone involved feels safe and respected. Safe words, which allow an activity to be stopped at any moment, are also a common practice to guarantee everyone's intimate essentials. BDSM can also include elements of role-play, where participants adopt specific characters gold scenarios, adding a layer of creativity and personal expression. Accessories such as ropes, handcuffs, gold whips can be used to intensify the experience. It is important to emphasise that BDSM is based on mutual consent and respect, and that every experience is unique, shaped by the desires and limits of those who participate. It is an exploration that can strengthen intimacy and trust between partners.
What accessories should you use to get started with soft Bondage?
There is a whole range of accessories at Passage du Désir to begin practising soft BDSM games. Here are the main ones:
1. Handcuffs for hands and feet
2. Harnesses
3. Ropes and restraints such as handcuffs, satin ribbon and adhesive tape
4. Low-temperature candles
5. Feathers and feather dusters
6. Whips
Is BDSM a common practice among French couples?
Yes, the desire to spice up one's sex life is massive.
The 2024 Customer Knowledge Survey (across 11,569 customers) reveals that 41.3% of people buy products specifically to "spice up their sex life".
Moreover, 41.1% of customers have already purchased in the "Games & Gadgets" category, which is often the gateway to Soft BDSM (handcuffs, masks). It has become a mainstream playful exploration.
What does BDSM mean?
BDSM is the acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism. It is a set of sexual and relational practices that explore power dynamics, intense sensations and role-play, always based on mutual
and explicit consent. For a healthy and safe practice, the essential keys are Consent, Communication and Trust [PédagoJouie Booklet T2 (Passage du Désir), 2024].
Passage du Désir uses the analogy of the 'tapas bar' to describe BDSM: 'You can try a bit of everything, gold only taste what catches your eye' [PédagoJouie Booklet T2 (Passage du Désir), 2024].
What are the essential safety rules for practising?
There is a golden rule: the "3Cs".
For the experience to remain positive, Passage du Désir recommends applying the 3C protocol: Consent, Communication, Trust.
It is also essential to define a "Safe Word" (a safety word, such as "Red" or "Stop") to immediately stop the activity if it no longer suits you. This is the guarantee of letting go with complete peace of mind.
Is BDSM reserved for the initiated, or can you start easily?
It's a practice accessible to everyone, comparable to a "Tapas Bar"!
As the PédagoJouie booklet from Passage du Désir explains very well, BDSM doesn't oblige you to do anything. It's like a buffet: you only pick what tempts you (a blindfold, a feather, a little spanking) and leave the rest.
If you don't know which product to buy to get started, here's some guidance, according to a Parisian study: "Handcuffs emerge as the favourite BDSM accessory among Parisians (16.4%), ahead of the mask and the whip." (Lelo / Censuswide 2026 Study)
There is no "all gold nothing" — you can stay at "Level 1" (sensual discovery) for as long as you wish.