A different way to masturbate with shallowing

Welcome to the wonderful world of masturbation with this new article! Alone, with a partner, with sex toys, your pillow, your hands or your partner’s body… There really are a million ways to pleasure yourself. Today, I’m introducing you to a new way to feel good that’s all the rage among people with vulvas. You’ll soon see why! No need to keep you in suspense: let’s dive straight into shallowing.

What exactly is shallowing? 

Straight from the language of Shakespeare, ‘shallow’ means not deep. So masturbating with shallowing is all about seeking shallow vaginal stimulation… Go on, hit me with your ‘thanks, Captain Obvious’ comments, BUT I want to be crystal clear. I can’t help stating the obvious — I’d hate for you to miss out on some incredible pleasure because I hadn’t explained it properly!

But the question on your lips is probably: ‘Why is it so popular? What’s so amazing about it?’ The secret to its success is the area it stimulates. Many of us enjoy this shallow stimulation because it reaches the G-zone, one of the erogenous zones that can produce seriously intense pleasure.

A few tips to maximise pleasure? 

If you want to try it with your favourite insertable toy, experiment with different angles. A little higher, a little further to the left… With so many sensory receptors, this area is particularly responsive to stimulation. But repeat the same in-and-out or rocking motion endlessly and it eventually loses its magic, along with some of the pleasure. So go ahead and try all sorts of combinations: variety is the key to pleasure that lasts!

And the best part is that it helps you get to know yourself better. Does a particular angle give you tingles? Brilliant — you can then look for positions that let you recreate it during sex 😍

You can also play with the movement of your hips. Picture this: you’re lying on your back, with whatever is penetrating you (a toy or your partner’s penis) in place. You could lift your bottom slightly and move your hips in little circles, hula-hoop style. As for the pace, it’s up to you: are you more into slow sex, or ready to let loose and get things moving?

What can you use for shallowing? 

With its thousands of tiny nerve endings, the vagina is a very sensitive area. I know sensitivity isn’t always seen as a good thing, but here it’s a real jackpot! Sensitivity means it’s easier to get a response, with more ways to make that happen.

On your own, you could use your fingers. You don’t need a pianist’s hands to explore shallowing: the G-zone is only about 4 centimetres inside your vagina. Two fingers and a little lube can do the trick. Place your palm against your mons pubis and insert your fingers until you feel a slightly textured area. That’s your G-zone! Now curl your fingers in a ‘come here’ motion to tap the area and enjoy.

You can also use a sex toy. If you like vibrations, I’d recommend the Rolls-Royce of our rabbit vibrators: the OKI. This little gem has a motor at the tip of its insertable shaft, specially designed to tap the g-spot.

For a toy without vibrations, the DAO and its curved shape are perfect for the job. A big plus: it’s made of shatterproof glass! So you can dip it in hot or cold water to play with temperature and spice up your masturbation sessions. 

You can also try shallowing as part of mutual masturbation. Your partner can use their fingers or a toy in exactly the way I described above. If you’d rather get up close and personal, you’ll need a penis or a strap-on dildo for that.

To make the most of the sensations, I recommend the magpie position! It’s a little gem: the penetrating partner sits down, while the other person straddles them, facing them. With your weight on your feet or knees, you control the movement. Think mini squats, keeping penetration shallow enough to reach the G-zone.

For something less energetic, you could try a reverse spooning position! Lie facing each other. The person being penetrated can keep their legs together or spread them apart — both work beautifully. And the really exciting part? You can look into each other’s eyes and watch each other’s pleasure!

Before we get to the end of this article, let me put on my helpful-hints hat... If you’re looking to squirt, shallowing is great practice! With stimulation of the G-zone, plenty of arousal and a relaxed state of mind, you might be on your way to discovering new sensations. If you enjoy it, you can stimulate your clitoris too, giving yourself the best chance with a winning combo. And if it doesn’t happen this time, don’t worry: there are plenty more naughty afternoons ahead for you to try again 😜

That’s all for today. On behalf of the whole Passage du Désir team, I wish you a wonderful festive season! 💜