How do you flirt without talking about looks?

Hello, my little velvet-pawed friend.

WE’RE AT THE END OF OUR TETHER HERE. And judging by what you’ve told us about the flirting you’ve seen, received and dished out, so are you...

Why? Because we’re all tired of the same old chat-up lines, all those "you’re so handsome" and "you’re so beautiful" comments...

Well, tired might be an exaggeration... It still gives our ego a boost, and we’ll take that. But flirting based solely on looks is a bit limiting, isn’t it?

Besides, we’re all for healthy relationships: the kind that last because they’re built on something a little more genuine. Around here, we’re on team thoughtful flirting.

DON’T PANIC! Here’s your complete guide to flirting without focusing solely on looks:)

10 compliments that aren’t about looks and that you’ll love to receive (and give) when flirting!

• I love your sense of humour

(Humour has been voted the ultimate weapon of mass seduction lately)

• I love the way you smell 

(We pick up on something that appeals to our senses and reveal a little about ourselves... A winning combination for flirting with a difference)

• You light up the room

(That sunny disposition and energy are pretty sexy, aren’t they?)

• I feel safe with you

(Wow, this might be one of the most powerful... A deeply personal compliment that creates a genuine connection and steers clear of cheesy chat-up lines)

• I love the way you think

(A bit like the last one... This kind of compliment shows a real connection and speaks to someone’s beauty as a whole, not just their looks)

• You inspire me

(Ummm, personally, this one’s my fave)

• Seeing you makes me feel good

(OK, maybe this says more about us... but the subliminal message seems pretty clear)

• Time flies when I’m with you

(= You’re the coolest person in France and beyond)

• I think you’re really intelligent

(Careful it doesn’t sound condescending... Otherwise, hello, sapiosexuals)

• You’re charismatic

(Kenzaaa karismatiiiiik. Sorry. A lovely way to say you appreciate someone as a whole and find them fascinating...)

We could go on, but here’s a first batch of compliments for more genuine flirting that isn’t just about looks...

The less generic a compliment is, and the more it highlights someone’s little quirks, the greater its impact... That’s the secret to flirting that goes beyond looks and sees the whole person.

See you soon for more tips, my velvet loves <3