Hello, little velvet paws.
WE ARE ABSOLUTELY DONE HERE. And so are you, judging by the stories you share with us about the flirting you receive and give out around you...
Why is that? Because we've all grown tired of basic flirting techniques, all those "you're so handsome"; "god, you're so beautiful"...
Finally tired of it... let's not exaggerate, it still flatters the ego and we'll take that. But it's a bit reductive to flirt based solely on looks, no?
And we champion healthy relationships, the ones that last and are therefore built on slightly higher levels of authenticity. We're firmly on the side of more thoughtful flirting.
NO NEED TO PANIC! We've got you covered here with a complete guide to go beyond flirting based solely on looks:)
The 10 non-physical compliments you'll love to receive (and give) to flirt effectively!
I really love your sense of humour
(Humour recently voted as the ultimate weapon of mass seduction)
I'm drawn to your scent
(We note something that appeals to our senses and reveal a little of ourselves... A winning duo for original flirting)
You radiate
(Solar energy is pretty sexy, isn't it?)
I feel at ease with you
(Wow, this one might be one of the most powerful... a very intimate compliment that genuinely connects you to the other person and steers clear of clichéd flirting)
I really love the way you think
( A bit like the previous one... This kind of compliment reflects a genuine connection and speaks to overall beauty, no just physical)
You inspire me
(Ummm personally that's my fave)
It does me good to see you
(Ok, this one perhaps says more about us... but the subliminal message still seems relatively light)
I don't notice the time passing when I'm with you
(= You're the coolest person in the country and beyond)
I find you very intelligent
(Be careful it doesn't come across as condescending... otherwise hello, sapiosexuals)
You're charismatic
(Kenzaaa karismatiiiiik. Sorry. A lovely way of saying you're drawn to the totality of a person and find them fascinating...)
We could go on like this for a while, but here is a first pool of compliments to use for more authentic flirting that isn't based solely on physical appearance...
Furthermore, the less generic the compliments are, and the more they highlight small specificities in the other person, the more impact they have... That's the secret of flirting that isn't based solely on physical appearance and that sees the person in their entirety.
See you very soon for more advice, you velvety loves <3
Léa ☁️
A word juggler for 10 years on a wide range of topics, I recently moved into sexology after training with Mathilde Magnien. Passionate about relational dynamics, here we'll chat in an uninhibited, inclusive and (slightly) funny way too.
