Squirting vs female ejaculation: we explain the difference

Buongiornooo, honourable little sea snails,

Squirting, so-called female ejaculation, gushing... These terms are often used interchangeably, causing confusion and sometimes pressure around the sexuality of people with vulvas. Yet the science is clear: these are two distinct phenomena that deserve to be explained without judgement or taboo.

We’re going to clarify what these fluids are, where they come from and what they may mean today. 

The anatomical and biological difference

Biologically, squirting (or gushing) and so-called female ejaculation (sometimes called vulvar ejaculation) are not the same thing; they differ mainly in their composition, origin and volume. 

• Squirting involves the expulsion of a large amount of clear, watery fluid that comes mainly from the bladder and urethra. This fluid is often diluted and may be released with or without an intense orgasm.

• So-called female ejaculation, on the other hand, involves a small, discreet release (around 1 ml at most) of a thicker, whitish fluid. It is produced by the Skene’s glands (often called the female prostate) and contains PSA (prostate-specific antigen). Unlike squirting, this is generally associated with orgasm.

Squirting: fluid released from the bladder

The term squirting (or gushing) refers to the sudden release of a large amount of clear fluid through the urethra. With intense arousal, often through stimulation of the g-spot, the urethral area becomes engorged. A muscular contraction releases fluid that comes mainly from the bladder. Many describe it as a strong feeling of pressure followed by a complete release.

So-called female ejaculation: the prostate equivalent

So-called female ejaculation is the true equivalent of so-called male ejaculate. It is produced by the Skene’s glands. At the height of arousal (often during orgasm), these small glands on either side of the urethra release a small amount of fluid. Because of its small volume and texture, this fluid often goes unnoticed.

More inclusive, open language

It’s vital to use language that respects the diversity of bodies and people:

• Inclusivity: We use the terms "people with vulvas" or "people with vaginas" here, rather than limiting these experiences to cisgender women.

• Take away the stigma: Confusion around these terms has long fuelled the taboo and the idea that squirting is urine, leading to shame and inhibition. Remember, the human body naturally produces fluids during arousal; there is NO REASON to feel ashamed.

Squirting, ejaculation and performance pressure

The porn industry (yes, it again) has played a major part in idealising squirting, portraying it as a sign — even definitive proof — of a "successful" orgasm.

The key takeaways:

• It’s not a goal: Not squirting or ejaculating in no way means a lack of pleasure or poor sexual performance.

• Orgasm takes many forms: Orgasm is a complex, varied phenomenon. It may be accompanied by different bodily responses or no visible sign at all

• Letting go is key: For anyone who wants to explore these sensations, the most important factor is relaxing mentally and physically. Anxiety and pressure to achieve a particular result are pleasure’s worst enemies.

The important thing is to listen to yourself, explore and communicate with your partner or partners, so you can enjoy a fulfilling sex life free from pressure and expectations.

PS: It’s often much more fun that way. 

PS2: Tell us in the comments what the picture in the article shows. 

xoxo <3