How to truly enjoy being single? 10 pieces of advice for thriving solo

Hey hey my marshmallows, did the title grab you? Perfect. We're going to direeeectly deconstruct the misconception that being single = loneliness TO BEGIN.

The definition as found on the internet:

nm: The state of a person of marriageable age who is not, and has never been, married. 

Ok, feel like throwing in the towel? Wait a moment before putting on La Traviata and turning on the gas. Let's reconsider all this and list 10 lovely things that sacred institution of being single creates.

1. Defining your living space: your personal sanctuary

Whatever the layout of your home, the important thing is to create spaces that reflect who you are:

 In a shared flat: A cosy desk corner, shelves just for you, established rules that give you comfort

 At your parents' place: A reimagined bedroom with your own style and a dialogue that allows for a degree of freedom 

 In a studio flat: Flexible décor that evolves with your tastes

The options are as varied as the number of humans on Earth, so you'll forgive me for not elaborating ;)

 The +: Establish rituals that mark your territory (breakfast in the sun, yoga session by the window...). These small anchors transform any place into your own space.

2. Deep friendship: building your chosen circle

Being single offers a unique opportunity to cultivate authentic relationships:

Organise themed evenings (blind test, board games, creative workshops, sports sessions, etc.)

• Launch collective projects (an urban vegetable garden, a group blog, an ethical AI... etc.)

  Create rituals with friends (Sunday brunch, monthly walks, morning swims - for the luckiest among you)

 Tips: Set up a WhatsApp, Messenger gold long-distance "Let's organise" group to easily plan spontaneous activities.

3. The luxury of positive selfishness: owning your desires

Take advantage of this period to:

 Saying yes without consulting anyone: weekend getaway, discovering a new restaurant

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 Saying no without guilt: cancelled evening, digital detox

•  Changing your mind: switching from a cinema evening to a night out in the city

 Exercise: Keep a notebook of your "current desires" and tick off at least one per week.

4. Rituals that do you good: everyday little joys 

Create your own moments of grace:

•  Morning coffee while listening to your favourite podcast

•  The evening walk to disconnect

•  The Sunday bath with music and a candle

 Variation: Set up a weekly "date with yourself" (exhibition, solo cinema, a terrace alone...).

5. Travel and outings: freedom in practice  

How to make the most of your flexibility:

•  Solo travel: start with a micro-adventure (1 night in a hostel)

•  Cultural outings: subscribe to newsletters from your city

•  Solo dinners: choose convivial counters or terraces

Tips tips: Create a "I feel like..." list with ideas for outings on days when you need inspiration.

6. Light love life: to each their own style  

Find your balance:

•  Flirting without pressure: dating apps in discovery mode

•  Romantic break: focus on yourself for a few months

•  Sex-friend: if it's light and fully assumed by both sides

Bis repetita, there are as many relationship models as there are humans on Earth. This list is obviously no exhaustive.

TO AVOID (for all humans on Earth): Forcing yourself to go out with someone just out of fear of loneliness.

7. Personal projects: the energy of freedom  

Make the most of your availability:

•  Training: MOOC in the evenings, workshop at the weekend

•  Creation: blog, podcast, crafts

•  Sport: set yourself a challenge (running, hiking)

 Method: The small steps technique - 30 minutes a day on your project.

8. The virtuous circle: surrounding yourself with good vibes  

Filter your relationships:

•  Boosters: those who lift you up

•  Toxic ones: to be gradually limited

•  New connections: join Meetup groups

 Action: Make a list of the 5 people who make you feel good and plan to get in touch with each of them this month.

9. Embraced solo pleasures: a way of life  

Reclaim:

•  Solo dining: sit at the bar for a more sociable experience

•  Solo cinema: choose daytime screenings for a different atmosphere

•  Solo trips: start with an easy European capital or, if your language skills aren't quite "fluent", a getaway within France

10. The winning mindset: being single = full of life  

Change your perspective:

•  It's not: "I'm alone"

•  But: "I am free to..."

•  It's not: "Nobody loves me"

•  But: "I love myself and I choose who I love"

 Affirmation: "My time being single is a rich and necessary period for my personal growth."

Living single means having the luxury of:

• Discovering yourself without a filter

• Building chosen relationships

• Exploring your deepest desires

Your mission, should you choose to accept it:

1. Choose 2 pieces of advice to apply this month

2. Write down 3 things you love about being single

3. Share this article with a single friend!