Endometriosis and sexuality

Endometriosis and fulfilling sexuality: is it possible? It's not easy to live a fulfilling sexuality when you have a disease causing very severe pain in the lower abdomen. Today, I'm going to give you some tips to soothe these pains and reclaim your sexuality.

Endometriosis, what is it?

Endometriosis, we hear more and more about it and that's very good. But what exactly is it?

It's a chronic gynecological disease that affects menstruating people. The endometrium, a mucous membrane normally located in the internal cavity of the uterus, evolves according to the hormonal cycle and is destroyed then evacuated if there is no nidation (that is, if the person does not become pregnant). This process is simply what we call menstruation.

Except that in people suffering from endometriosis, this tissue is located outside the uterine cavity and therefore does not disintegrate. It then causes different symptoms varying according to the different affected individuals.

The symptoms

Chronic pain, whose intensity and frequency can vary, generally occurs during menstruation and/or ovulation, but also during sexual intercourse, (this is what is called dyspareunia).

These severe pains can become a real handicap in everyday life. Dizziness, vomiting, discomfort... and have a direct impact on the intimate life of affected individuals. For some, this area is so sensitive and the fear of feeling pain is so present that it is simply impossible to have sexual relations.

And sex in all this?

Obviously, a disease that includes chronic pain, irregular hormonal cycles, and dyspareunia has negative consequences on the intimacy of affected individuals and couples.

Several difficulties emerge. The decrease in libido, which according to a survey conducted by Endo France, affects 71% of affected individuals. But also the apprehension of acute pain during intercourse, to the point that many affected individuals prefer to abstain.

Well, it's true that all this is impressive, and rightly so. But fortunately, today we also know that there are solutions to better live with endometriosis.

And if we started by talking about it?

The first thing to do, and it can never be said enough, com-mu-ni-cate 😉! Dialogue is important for everyone, we know that. But here, it's absolutely essential. Communicate to your partner your apprehensions, your feelings, the gestures that make you feel good and those that hurt, in order to guide them as best as possible.

Who wants a massage?

Endometriosis sometimes makes certain areas of the body used during sexual intercourse, like the pelvis, stiff. While some sports activities like walking and yoga help regain flexibility and mobility, massage is also an excellent solution to relax and loosen the body! In addition to creating a romantic atmosphere, you soothe the body and mind. It is also great for easing the apprehension of pain. Scented oils, massage candles, crackling foams, you can choose your favorite playful cosmetic!

On track!

To awaken pleasure without awakening pain, focus first on the external part of the clitoris. By stimulating it with a sex toy, fingers, or tongue, you will gently increase excitement, allowing your body to relax. The area located at the back of the vagina is particularly affected by the pain caused by endometriosis. As a result, deep penetrations can trigger and press on these very painful lesions. To avoid straining these weakened areas, some positions are more suitable than others. Favor those that offer shallow penetrations. Solo, we prefer short sex toys for the G-spot.

A final little tip, applicable to everyone: use lubricant! Because endometriosis can cause uncomfortable and painful vaginal dryness, but also simply because lubricant helps avoid the frankly unpleasant friction and irritation of penetration.

I would end this article by saying that, as always, the most important thing is to listen to your body and take it easy! Take your time, enjoy yourself, that's what truly matters.

See you soon! 💜