ANAL ORGASM: everything you need to know in 5 key points

Greetings butterfly breezes 💜,

"Just to be clear, anal does hurt, right?"

The salespeople and trainers at Passage du Désir hear this at least once a week.

So we thought it was time to talk about it.

In common imagination, anal penetration is associated with a painful experience contrary to vaginal penetration which is rarely linked to suffering by default. The real enemy? The stress of the first time, which tenses the perineum and kills desire.

5 keys to see more clearly.

1. Anal penetration should NOT be painful

The perineum and perianal area are as sensitive and erogenous as the genitals. A gentle massage (with a suitable oil allows, for example, to:

• Desacralize penetration

• Relax the muscles

• Familiarize with sensations

Little tip: Get inspired by the Sensate Focus method (thanks to Masters & Johnson), 5 steps to reconnect pleasure and touch.

2. Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate

Unlike the vagina, the anus is an area that does not self-lubricate, which is why we highly recommend using a long-lasting textured lubricant, possibly paired with a relaxing anal gel.

3. How to start gently?

For a successful first time:

• Choose a small plug (like the Hector, ideal for its progressive shape and soft material).

• Insert it yourself (or guide your partner(s)) to keep control or reassure yourself.

• Breathe deeply to relax the muscles.

Never (force) yourself: pleasure comes with patience

4. Stimulate adjacent erogenous zones

Anal orgasm is often amplified by other caresses.

Winning combos:

• Clitoris/penis + anal → Double stimulation for cascading orgasms.

• Breasts/perineum + anal → Activates more nerve endings.

⚡ Fun fact : Many people achieve orgasm solely through anal stimulation thanks to this nerve connection!

5. Listen to your body and communicate

Pleasure is above all a matter of consent and kindness.

Our advice: 

• Take it gradually: No race for performance, please.

• Talk with your partner(s): Say what you like, what you want to try, what you feel step by step, and debrief the experience.

• Stop at any moment: Discomfort = pause or change of approach.

OUR ULTIMATE CHECKLIST

✔ Physical and mental preparation

✔ Quality lubricant

✔ Suitable equipment (plug, fingers...)

✔ Open communication with the partner

✔ Patience and kindness towards yourself

As always, we discuss exploratory paths that are never injunctions. Prioritize your sensations, your desires, question them and enjoy the moments you experience.